I am the youngest of 11. I still stay with my parents because they are sick. I pay the bulk of the bills and buy all the groceries and household items. My brothers visit the house three to four times a day looking for something to eat and to borrow things from the house.
2007-10-14 14:03:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
You cant do anything, your parents have to do it............. they have to say , sorry but we need this and you didnt pay for it anyway........... now get out............. hope they do it
2007-10-14 14:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since YOU are the one putting out the cash for your parents and helping with the house (Good for you)! First off change the locks on the doors. Second notify your brothers by phone two days after you change the locks. Tell your brothers there will be a fee of $25.00 to come over to eat and reimburse for the items taken from the house. If no compliance they can not get in. Give your brothers an ultimatum. Come twice a month to come see their parents. This will control the traffic in the house and this will make them respect you. Since they are family, SO WHAT! Tell your brothers get a job, it is no fun being broke.
2007-10-14 14:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by peaches and cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. in uncomplicated terms your mom can play hardball with him by ability of giving him an ultimatum. Get a job in 2 weeks so he could make a contribution money to the relatives or get out on the tip of two weeks. There are continuously minimum salary jobs yet he would sense that he's above 'authentic artwork'. communicate on your mom with regard to the situation. maybe even carry a relatives assembly with the lazy bum attending (unplug his activity) it rather is not any longer your accountability to assist a lazy bum brother. you're husband has the dazzling physique of recommendations. Oh, and it might desire to be exciting to hold his activity equipment hostage till finally he gets a job. carry it for the money he owes for the foodstuff and different money that he owes you. .
2016-12-29 10:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by bockoven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your parents need to stop this. The situation will only get worst. Next, they may want to move in. They can help pay or leave your house. If the problem persists, start contacting the police and have them remove from your property.
2007-10-15 00:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 have a fam reunion and set everybody straight. If your parents r sick, then everybody needs 2 chip in, not just u, and if ur paying almost everything, then they need 2 back off and leave ur parents b.
2007-10-14 14:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by knowledgeable1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a book titled 'Boundaries' The recommendation is actually stolen from my favorite Financial Counselor. You need to engage in 'Tough Love'. Helping people DOES NOT equal giving them what they WANT. It is giving them what they NEED. It sounds like your brothers need a swift kick in the a**. Possibly both figuratively AND literally.
2007-10-14 14:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by STEVEN F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and frank with them. Tell them it hurts you to have to be so honest, but you need to share some facts with them. Then tell them the facts. That you don't have the money to feed all these people. Tell them to get their lazy asse* moving and get jobs.
2007-10-14 14:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...this is just an idea that popped in my head, put a price tag on everything with a slip of paper and tape. They should get the hint
2007-10-14 14:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try talking to your parents and let them know how you feel your brothers need to be helping parents instead of using them someone need to call the elder abuse
2007-10-14 14:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your brothers; they are a bunch of vampires.
Shove a stake up their arses and tell them to go to hell where they all belong.
2007-10-14 14:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋