Willie and I have been together for yrs. he wants to marrie me but is not responsible enough to become a husband . He like's to do things his way never asking my opinoin first.
2007-10-14 13:39:32 · 12 answers · asked by love ya 2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are happy with things the way they are, then just carry on. If you don't, then change something. The only thing you have control over is your own behavior, so that would be the thing to change. Maybe you want to find a grown-up man to be involved with. Maybe you don't.
2007-10-14 13:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by treebird 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considering how this Statement was worded (as questions are worded with "What do you think"? or something similiar) , Willie like's thing's 1 way you like it another , sounds to me like neither 1 of you are capable of being adult about it , so I only have the following to state.
The whole point of Question's and Answer's is having a place we can come and vent our problems , ask for help and take on board the advice given and be able to process the BS from the real people wanting to help the situation , while not all Question'ers actually heed the advice after processing it and use it to make their live's less stressful and more comfortable / manageable a lot of people do actually move on after the advice is given.
When I give advice it's usually based on a double sided coin , I tend to give the side where the problem is real and does need tending to and advise moving on and giving yourself time to mourn the loss of a marriage or a loved 1 and then taking up some hobbies like art classes or theatre group's , what ever is needed to rebuild the self esteem and the inner soul.
On the other side of the coin I give the negative , where I dont totally believe 100% that the question is actually viable or true and honest , like when someone just gets bored and basically writes a question that sounds like something out of a story they read some where.
For this question I am afraid even though it may get me many thumbs down , I feel that this question is not real.
2007-10-14 22:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say who is the most unconcerned here. Though I have a feeling that you think you are babysitting him AND putting up with his nonsense all at the same time. Why are you allowing him to treat you this way, when you know you deserve better? Find the little puppy a new home ;-)
2007-10-14 20:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good enough to be together for years but not good enough for a husband??? Why have you wasted your time and his? Or is it you like to have him around at your convenience and don't want to have to look for someone else?
Let him go and find someone that will accept him AND his ways of doing things. You do the same and you both will be better off.
2007-10-14 20:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's been good enough for 9 years and now that he wants to show responsibility by getting married (in a way) you are doubting your relationship.
ask, what is his motive for wanting to get married? does he want a mother or a wife? is it cos he's getting older?
is this your fate in life,sometimes we dont' get the whole package exactly as we'd hoped for but you make compromises sometimes. write down all the pros and cons of being married to him. what compromises are you prepared to make? do the cons stack up against him?
ask yourself why do you want to continue to be in this relationship if he is not good enough?
2007-10-14 21:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by sass24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You leave him, or kick him out, and find someone who is responsible enough to be a good husband and soul mate to you.
2007-10-14 20:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then don't marry him. Does that mean you're going to break up altogether?
2007-10-14 20:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not go there. You know, because you're asking this question.
Marriage is ONLY when you are COMPLETELY SURE he is THE ONE.
I made that mistake. Don't do it.
2007-10-14 20:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him that if you can both concentrate on thinking of the other and their opinions, then you will consider marriage- if he can't do that now, marriage won't change him
2007-10-14 20:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your question is confusing and not correctly spelled
dont marry the guy then. tell hm why and then see how it goes
2007-10-14 21:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by just duky 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋