I love my man, and I try to do a lot of things to make him happy, because he always makes me happy in the bedroom.
Lately he has not been able to c*m. I'm worried that it's me-that he's not attracted to me anymore. I asked him, and he says its not me. I even wore really sexy lingerie last night and zip...nada...nothing.
We got so exhausted last night just working at things, to try to get him to come. I actually got sore and we had to stop, because nothing was happening. Its not even really about the sex completely, but I am worried because we both really like having sex with each other...and we want to get engaged...what if this keeps happening.
I just dont know what to do. This the second time it's happened.
2007-10-14 13:32:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Please understand, I do love him. It's not just about the sex. I'm just worried about him.
Sex is important to both of us - isnt it important to everyone in a relationship? I am well aware that it is not everything in a relationship as well, before anyone gets on a soapbox about how sex isnt everything, alright.
And I'd just like to comment on what was said about us just getting engaged for sex...it's not like that at all. We want to get engaged at some point, yes. But it's not just for the sex, we're normal people, just like you.
2007-10-14 14:24:54 · update #1
Sometimes this can happen when people concentrate too much on being able to have an orgasm. The more you are both thinking about it, and working towards him having one, the less likely it is that its going to happen. Its a bit of a catch 22 in that you have to work towards it, but cant think about it.
I would just go back to what worked in the begining. Try making it a bit less of an occasion and more of a spontaneous thing that he isn't expecting to change things up a little bit. If you keep going as you are and trying the same sorts of things, then its probably only going to get worse.
If none of these things work, then i would suggest that he speaks to a doctor just to find out if there are any options for him.
2007-10-14 14:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has problems ejacualting not keeping an erection. You need not worry that this means he doesn't like you. Has he recently been started on medications? Many can cause these problems, but antidepressants are the most notorious. If he was having erection problems, other type of meds can be the culprit, like anti-hypertensives. These kinds of concerns can also be self-perpetuating. The more you two worry about this and make it an issue, the bigger the problem can become. Relax, I'm sure everything will get back to normal. Ask him about any meds or change in meds.
2007-10-14 13:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by misoma5 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two times isnt that big of a deal... there are tons of things that could be effecting him and making this happen. he could be stressed and have his mind on something else, it could be a side effect of a new medication, if he's been drinking it takes longer, or he may be worried he isnt lasting long enough and have masturbated before to hold out for you... the best thing to do is to get a check up and go from there.
2007-10-14 13:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by sam h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing, is to understand each other and support each other threw thick and thin,and things will change for better,he can be under stress,sick,problems at work etc.
An understanding and concern for other person brings lots of admiration and true LOVE
2007-10-14 14:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by MiMoSa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took blood pressure medications and im forever messed up in this area, sometimes 3 hours with nothing. Im not worried, im confident I will find a cure for my problem. I will find answers, this is only a test and I ill make a complete recovery...but docs say my condition is permanent. Watch me beat it, good luck and tell him to remember anything is curable.
2007-10-14 13:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never personally experienced this, wish sometimes it could (as in rock you til tomoro), but then my best friend said it happened to him and it wasnt nice, so id rather not go thru that.
But I think its some psychological thing maybe hes got something on his mind bothering him. It definitely isn't you. I think you should talk to him and if its persistent then see a doc
2007-10-14 13:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by chig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not all about sex. He should see a doctor.. though because sex is important. You should not be getting engaged just for sex..
2007-10-14 13:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have him get a prostate check, it could be that it is stopping the flow of sperm from the testicles to the scrotum. A check is relatively cheep to get, just hope it isn't an actual problem, if it is simply enlarging of the prostate then he can get meds and it will be all better.
2007-10-14 13:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there could be many reasons for it...
Does he masturbate alone...
Maybe while having sex i does have enough semen to ejaculate...
Putting too much pressure on himself.
U said you wore eatch other out, trying to make him ejaculate.
If he try too hard, or gets to nervous on that part that he may not be able to ejaculate.. he will not...
Cool things down .. concentrate on enjoying us sexual active...
We me & my gf do it.. sometime i dont ejaculate... but sex is still fun & mindblowing..
If u want to make sure its not a clinical probelm .. one way to check it...tell him to absatin from masurbating & sex for a week...
Then try giving him an oral .. or masurbate with him...
If i can ejaculate.. hes perfectly normal...
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