There is this really imature girl I had a crush on my last year of college. We spent a lot of time together and she seemed really interested... until I tried to kiss her. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I was shocked. After that we had an argument and stopped talking for 4 months.
Now she is contacting me to "hang out".. however when I returned her call she didn't aswwer and still has not called back. (she used to do this before too whenever she got anger at me).
Is it safe to say she is just playing games or is she doing this because she is interested and not sure how to handle it?
I'm very confused.
I ask here because Dating section has too many teenagers and kids.. I need mature answers.
2007-10-14 13:28:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
she's not really interested in u. but she knows u are interested in her, and she probably is bored or doesn't have anyone else chasing her now, so she's trying to get u to chase her to make her feel good about herself. But like i said, she's not really interested in you, so it would be a waste of time to give her the attention she is seeking.
2007-10-14 16:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sadie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably really enjoyed your company but just wasn't ready to take it to a physical level. She may never want to take it to that and perhaps just likes hanging out with you because you share common interests and have fun together. My best friend was a guy and we had a lot of good times but never once were physically attracted to each other.
Can't you just ask her what her expectations are? That way all cards are on the table and you can make a decision based on knowledge rather than assumptions.
2007-10-14 15:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of tug of war going on here, and I feel as though she is definately pulling on your strings.
Best thing to do is to show zilch interest and move on with your life. Nothing gets a girl going crazy more than a guy who shows a lack of interest. Just give her a small compliment and then walk away. If she follows, then you can bet she's interested in you, but let her do some work.
2007-10-14 14:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shivers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you're no longer the only for them. basically because of the fact they do no longer pick you, would not propose your the only that have been given away because of the fact they wanted to be gamers. This guy sounds like an entire device, you will be happy that he would not think of your the only. the reason you date (or play the sport) is to discover somebody who's well suited with you. you preserve relationship till you come across the appropriate individual, then you definately marry them. this is the way you "cut back" the sport enjoying, once you have got here across the appropriate one.
2016-10-20 07:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one: quit chasing. If she's interested, she'll come to you and stop playing childish games. You need to let her know you don't play games -- you're not desperate are you? She knows your level of interest because you tried to kiss her. She has not forgotten. If she approaches you again, and if you're still interested, tell her what you're looking for, and if she's not interested, move along. The ball is in her court. People will respect you a lot more in the long run if you're not needy and if you make clear what you're looking for.
2007-10-14 13:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
* More than likely she cares about you as she keeps coming back! She may be very shy or immature! If you feel like she is just 'yanking your strings' then it is time to move on! If you feel like the both of you have made a connection then give her a chance to tell you what her issues are* Good Luck to you*
2007-10-14 18:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not want a serious relationship... perhaps something else!
If she wanted something serious... she would handle the situation with a more "serious" attitude. She is curious as to what might come of this, so I'd encourage you to take her somewhere "safe" and reveal your intentions. This will cue her response and the answer you seek. If she wants to be "friends", "partners", or "friends w/ benefits", you'll know then and only then. She wants to reveal her intentions but is not secure enough to come "out of the blue"
2007-10-14 13:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by HEC 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She was probably never ready to date so it's not really a game. I, for example, don't want to date anyone at the moment but there may be a guy that I wouldn't mind dating in the future (and he could be getting those vibes). But it's not like I'm leading him on, I'm just being myself but I'm not ready for a relationship.
That doesn't mean I'd want to lose their presence in my life, and it's not like I expect them to wait for me either.
2007-10-14 13:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This type of woman is an opportunist who is playing games and should be avoided as she hasn't matured emotionally and seems to like manipulation. That is her problem and not yours. Don't sit around and fret about it. Go out and find someone who really wants you.
2007-10-14 13:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Desert Sienna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never play games with people,it's childish.
It sounds like you are this girls second choice,and that she only calls when she is bored.
I wouldn't associate with her anymore,you can do so much better.
2007-10-14 13:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋