2007-10-14 12:17:36 · 46 answers · asked by dober-man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends. if you really want it back and she is unwilling to give it back to you then you should take her to small claims court. the judge might rule in her favor and rule that it was a gift or the judge could rule in your favor because the engagement never went through.
2007-10-14 12:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by vixen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get engaged on her birthday it shouldn't matter. In most places I know, legally an engagement ring symbolizes a contract for marriage. If the marriage doesn't happen for whatever reason (you break it off, or she does), the ring goes back to the purchaser. It is not a gift for the sake of being a gift, it is a gift with conditions attached. After the wedding, the ring is hers because the promise/contract was fulfilled, but until then, it is still yours. Threaten to take her to small claims court if she won't return it. then you would be awarded the money and she can keep the ring.
2007-10-14 12:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should consider what it meant when you gave her the ring. The ring was not a gift... it was in fact a symbol of your affection for another human being. The one who received the ring would be the better person to return the ring because the affection in the relationship has went another way. The ring let the world know that you and she were intending to take a sacred vow. For whatever reason the vow was not entered into. Both you and she need to do the exact right thing.
2007-10-14 12:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by yah_ra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to all the Judge shows on TV, an engagement ring is a promise to marry someone, if the marriage does not happen they are legally responsible for giving the ring back. Not to mention it's just the right thing to do.
2007-10-14 12:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Amy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most states, legally speaking, if you give an engagement ring and the marriage doesn't take place the ring goes back to the giver. The ring is considered a gift of a promise to marry. If the marriage takes place then the promise is complete and it is then considered a gift.
2007-10-14 13:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by dobeys2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off... no matter what day it is given on it is NOT A GIFT. Guys offer the ring to the woman when they propose as a symbol to wear once they agree to marry them. This shows everyone that they are taken and it is a symbol of their love. Once the engagement is broken off - the man should get the ring back regardless of who broke it off (although this doesn't always happen). Good luck to you!
2007-10-14 12:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you gave the ring as a promise of the love that you all had together. I also think that she accepted the ring as a promise of the love. Once that love is gone or you are not togther anymore then I think that you are entitled to get the ring back. With that said if you get the ring back then pawn it or something you would not to give the ring to a new girl.
2007-10-14 12:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get it back. Wait for your girlfriend to return it. She knows what she is going to do once you break up. More often women knew what they must do with the ring if the relationship is aborted. An engagement ring symbolizes a commitment between the two who love each other. If it doesn't materialize for one reason or another then it loses its meaning and the recipient knew what to do with it. She doesn't have to be embarrassed.
2007-10-14 13:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lei Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring is a symbol of a promise to spend the rest of your life with that person. If you dumped her, you broke the promise and she should keep the ring. If she dumped you she should give it back. If it were mutual then she should give it back as well. I would give it back unless I had already bought the dress and other crap and the guy backed out on me. If I can't get my money back why should he?
2007-10-14 12:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, that is the law in most states. If it wasn't a birthday, Christmas, Valentines Day, or other reason to give her a present. then she must give the ring back. Morally, the ring is a symbol of a promised marriage and if that marriage does not take place, you should get the ring back
2007-10-14 12:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get it back. Yes it was a gift but it had an expectation that went along with it. If she would have said 'no' to begin with, you wouldn't have given her the ring because the expectation of getting married would not have been fulfilled. It's the same deal if you break up. Now if you broke up with her, she might not give it back because she is already angry or hurt. If she broke up with you, there's no question - she should definitely give it back.
2007-10-14 12:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by lauryn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋