I cant believed this happend to me...?

Question

well it all happend last night, i just came back from the park with my two kids gabriella 6 and gaven 2. my husband said he had to stay home to do some last minute work so when i came home the lights were on and i kept saying hello but n one answered and i said gabs to you think daddys here and i put my stuff down and as i was walking i heard a noise coming from my bedroom and their was my sister jenifer( i have 2 sisters and three brothers) and my husband having sex! i never really liked jenifer because i was jealous of her. she was 23 had platium blond hair, blue eyes and was 100lbs. and ever since i eloped in vegas 4 years ago and meet my husband she wanted him. so i left and packed some of my kids clothes and went to my other sisters house justine. i dont kno what to do i need help! thanks

Answer 1

This is a story that you made up. Too much information about kids and such.

IF and I mean IF it is true..................you have true problems that your sister and husband have betrayed you.

Tell Justine to have your back.

Answer 2

The whole point of Question's and Answer's is having a place we can come and vent our problems , ask for help and take on board the advice given and be able to process the BS from the real people wanting to help the situation , while not all Question'ers actually heed the advice after processing it and use it to make their live's less stressful and more comfortable / manageable a lot of people do actually move on after the advice is given.

When I give advice it's usually based on a double sided coin , I tend to give the side where the problem is real and does need tending to and advise moving on and giving yourself time to mourn the loss of a marriage or a loved 1 and then taking up some hobbies like art classes or theatre group's , what ever is needed to rebuild the self esteem and the inner soul.

On the other side of the coin I give the negative , where I dont totally believe 100% that the question is actually viable or true and honest , like when someone just gets bored and basically writes a question that sounds like something out of a story they read some where.

Question'ers dont feel the need to give name's , not their real name's anyway's , so they use letter 's like L or J , or acronyms like Joe and Martha .

For this question I am afraid even though it may get me many thumbs down , I feel that the way the name's were used so openly with ages , the way the story line was set out ie: i never really liked jenifer because i was jealous of her. she was 23 had platium blond hair, blue eyes and was 100lbs. and ever since i eloped in vegas 4 years ago and meet my husband she wanted him., it's just to conveniently and calmly written.

So I feel this question is not real.

Answer 3

Go back to the house; have him leave as your children need a home and he is the one who was unfaithful. You will need to talk to him about this and get the truth about it all; you need to know what has been happening behind your back. As for your sister - I would have nothing to do with her anymore; you can love her but you don't have to like her or her actions. She is obviously immature, self-centered and could care less about you or your family

I know people are telling you to get rid of your husband, but that is something only you can decide. I know he cheated and that is the worst thing anyone can do to someone else; especially when they profess to love you. But, unlike many, I think you and he owe it to your children to face this together and do anything and everything you can to rebuild your relationship. His reactions will show you if he is remorseful, ashamed and feeling the stupid fool he is. Get back into the home, face him, get some answers and reactions, talk and then you will know which route to take. You are too much in shock right now to make a decision that will affect you and your childrens life for many years to come. Let him have it; both barrells - he needs to know the absolute hurt and pain he is causing you; hope it was all worth it for him.

Answer 4

I would have booted his *** out. He's the one who broke the rule. Hope the kids didnt see it.

Wow girl, that is a hard one. What is up with your sister? OMG that is so wrong.

I think you did the right thing to separate yourself and the kids from him for now. Can your other sister watch the kids while you take some time to talk with your husband?

What does your sister Justine say? She would know your situation better than any of us online. This is a tough situation for anyone; your sister that fooled around with your husband has issues. You just dont do that to your sibling. wow.

I guess i would move back to your house, kick him out. I wouldnt talk to him right away, mayb not till he's had time to think about it. You could talk, but who knows how long this has been going on. For awhile im sure. So think hard b4 even thinking about forgiving him or worse taking him back. And as for Jenifer, id talk to her, but to find out if she ever wants to see you or her niece and nephew again. That is completely unacceptable... very close to unforgiveable for a sister to do to another sister.

Answer 5

Wait until he goes to work the next day, throw all of his things on the lawn so everyone can see them, and perhaps put a sign in front of them saying "he slept with my sister" and then change the locks on the doors.
You need a divorce since if this just happened it would be one thing but they knew you would be returning from the park so they did it in order to be caught and had to have been more careful not to be caught the other times. Don't be jealous of your sister because you can see what she did with her looks while there are many who would rather have someone like you, concerned about the children. I wouldn't even consider counseling in this case since he appears to have no morals at all!!

Answer 6

get in touch with an attorney, freeze the as setts, file for child support, and move on, because its not so much that u don't still have love in your heart for him, its that u can never trust him again and u will always be replaying what u saw in your mind. once betrayed it does something to how u feel about the entire marriage. let them have each other, and get into some grief counseling, surround yourself around good close friends who know what your going through. i"m not going to say it won't hurt because it will, but once this happens the marriage is usually over with. looks as if she may have been pursuing him and it finally paid off but your husband should have had more self control and should know its just lust. now he will have to pay the consequences as u don't deserve a husband or sister like this.

Answer 7

You just need to give it some time.
Don't make any rash decisions right now when the wound is still fresh.
You also need to find out if this is a 1 time thing,
or is it something that has been going on for some time.
If you are ever able to get that trust back,
your marriage may survive.
But if you can't ever get that trust back,
it's just not going to make it.
I am so sorry for your grief.
I know what you are going through.
I went through a similar thing,
although it wasn't with my Sister.
It was with my ex's, ex.
I just couldn't ever find that trust again.
So therefore he's now my "ex". ;)

Answer 8

Well, you can either try and work this out with your husband ( that is if you want to but after he cheated with your sister.....), get separated or get a divorce. I would probably stay at your sister's for a while (although he should be the one that's out, not you since he cheated on you) while you get your thoughts in order on what you what to do.

Answer 9

This was planned, and I bet it has happened more than once!

Go home, have the locks changed and set his things on the curb. DO not get angry, you have your angels to think of!

Call a lawyer, and start divorce proceedings. Make hubby and your sister as the defendants, since it is because of them that you are getting a divorce!

Move on with your life, you deserve a heck of a lot better than him! AND I would NEVER speak to her again!

Blessings and luck to you!

Answer 10

Yea I agree with the others, get rid of this guy. And do it now while the anger is fresh with you, self doubt will set in if you let your love for him allow you to doubt your intentions. Don't let yourself take him back, he is a cheater and guys like that will never change. And as far as your sister goes, I really don't know what advice to give you about her...she sounds like a scumbag too. Good luck to you in the future..

Answer 11

I agree with most here you need to wait till he goes to work, go back home have the locks changed and burn his **** up. You should say nothing to that no good *** back stabbing, lying whore of a sister. She would not be welcome in my home ever again or around the children. How could you possibly make this marriage work, every time you think of what he and the whore did your heart will break. GET OUT NOW THIS WAS NOT MEANT TO BE.