October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Do you have any stories of how it has affected you?

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or anyone you know within the GLBT community? Too many people are unaware that domestic violence DOES occur within the GLBT community as well. If you're comfortable, would you please share your story?

Answer 1

I had a young emo friend named Kevin who had a controlling boyfriend that used to mistreat him all the time.Kevin would not let me beat the guy up or even say anything to him.One night Kevin was knocking so faintly at my front door that I barely heard him.When I opened the door I almost lost conciousness.That creep had beaten Kevin so bad that his nose bone was showing through and both of his lips were shredded from his teeth where the guy slapped him over and over.Kevin had got tired of him and told him he planned to leave.So he took a beating for it.I took him to the hospital where I sat with him all night.He was released and then I took him to the battered womens shelter.They would not help him because he was male.I told them a few choice things and then took him back to my house.I told him we would go get his belongings the next day with law enforcement.That evening his ex showed up at my place.I didnt know it was him until I opened the door.I lost it people...As he went to rant about Kevin is coming home where he belongs I grabbed five fingers full of throat and jerked him into my living room.When I threw him in the floor I kicked the door shut and flew into him with both feet.The body stomp took alot of the fight out of him,but I was gone.I kicked and beat on him until I was fatigued.Kevin kept telling him "I'm not going to stop him,you deserve this.".I made sure his face looked worse than Kevins.Then after Kevin spit in his face we called the police to have him arrested for barging into my house to assault little Kevin again.We were escorted over to get Kevins things,of course plus a few things he felt he deserved..That Dude is STILL in prison serving a 25 year sentence for assault with bodily injury and home invasion with intent to cause bodily harm.He was denied parole as Kevin showed his hospital pictures to the parole board and testified against his release.Yes,domestic abuse happens with gays.I've seen lesbians fight each other harder than any Dudes...But it is good to recognize it and be aware that it does happen.If you know someone who is being abused,please try to help them.Some people will stay with their abuser till the cows come home,and they will fight YOU for getting into their business sometimes.But it is never right and certainly never justified.There are doors to leave through and backs to be turned instead of violence.Nobody ever has the right to hurt another human.I was wrong for beating up Kevins boyfriend,but it felt good.That was about ten years ago,and Kevin has never been in another abusive relationship.Some people are drawn to those types of people and they need to be aware that they can DIE as a result of it.Physical abuse is only part of it .There is emotional and mental abuse as well.If you are with someone who controls your every move,that is a warning sign to get out now!!!If you are afraid to leave,email me through my profile here and I personally will help you get in touch with people who will help you.I despise people who abuse their lovers.They are the lowest of lowlifes.And they make it hard for people to trust.Just because I am powerful and masculine I get looked at like someone who controls.That makes me so angry because I am into Emo's who are slim and frail,and I take pride in being their rock and their protector.I really hate to see that fear in someone.Because I know it was put there by an abusive person.And to the abusive ones,DO NOT LET ME CATCH YOU DOING IT TO ANYONE I KNOW.Because I do not have any problem calling out the Ex-Marine in me to TCB...I love everyone in our community and none of them needs that crap at all in their life.To all of the precious Emo's out there (guys and gals), you always have an option to leave.ALWAYS!And I promise you there will always be someone who will help you if you need it.Just get on here and ask for help.Then watch how many people will step up.I will be one of the first! This is a great question and I'd give you 2 stars if I could!!!!!Thanks!
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Answer 2

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20 yrs ago my late ex tried to make a "Honey Due" out of me and I have a problem with being told what to do after spending 20+ yrs in the Army. So, I revolted, packed up my stuff, left her before we got into a big fight and I may have wound up in jail for Domestic Violence.

Answer 3

Does it have to be in the G/L community? I got out after 9 years. I know it goes on there, also, because I have a gay friend I grew up with who was a victim of it. He's had a lover of several years now who he seems afraid to live with because of this.