How does an another person who has an abortion or marries a same sex partner PERSONALLY affect you?

Question

Thanks freepress....

America2006, by law abortion is NOT murder. Also, that doesn't answer my question, how does it affect you personally?!

I understand HOW some people feel about abortion. You are entitled to your own opinion. But I didn't ask you HOW you felt about abortion or gay marriage. The question was....How does an another person who has an abortion or marries a same sex partner PERSONALLY affect you? So far no one gave me an answer on how abortion and gay marriage affects them personally.

Answer 1

People make these two things a moral issue when they shouldn't be. The truth is whether you agree with abortion rights or not there are some situations babies shouldn't have to be born into. I mean, if the mother is wanting to have an abortion do you think she will do a good job of raising that child she doesn't want?

And as far as same sex issues, I don't know how one can hang morals on being gay when some people are just born that way. We all know girls who should have been boys and boys who should have been girls. And some people still just find the same sex attractive. And even still some people a psychologically affected by something in their past that wasn't their fault, why can't they be happy?

I will always have a problem with people not being able to gain anything from a law no matter which way it goes but voting so that others can't gain rights. Kinda like women and minority rights in this country 100 years ago. It didn't hurt the country for women and blacks to be able to vote. White males didn't get anything for them not to be able to vote. So why in the hell did they have a problem with them voting?

To me, that's a moral issue...

And to Anonymous a few answers above me, it isn't that they are redefining marriage between a man and a woman, they are defining marriage between a man and a man or a woman and a woman. I don't see the problem. Isn't this the land of freedoms? There are countries whose governments don't allow personal choices, maybe you would like it better to live in one of those places where they tell you what you can do, think, and say about everything.

Answer 2

Well, I want to say that it DOESN'T. But the truth is that anything can affect someone personally on an emotional level. So the actions of other people having abortions and/or marrying same sex partners CAN personally affect someone, but the effect is ONLY emotional. However, our emotions shouldn't be a consideration... We should not allow our emotions to interfere with our views on issues involving the freedoms of others.

Answer 3

It effects you the same way that a mother drowning her three kids in a tub personally effects you. The same way that Iran getting nuclear weapons personally effects you.

These are things that happen around us, and our reaction to them will determine their level of acceptance. Humans have a tendency to conform to the reactions of others. Those reactions will allow or disallow something to happen in the future. Completely separated from logical conclusions, these illogical levels of acceptance control trends that effect everyone.

If someone passes gas in an elevator and there is no reaction, the person responsible will feel no remorse and probably do it again. If the reaction was offence, the person will feel outcast and will not do it again. Others witnessing the offence will also not be likely to pass gas.

If conformity of reaction causes people to accept trans fat as a new and wonderful replacement to saturated fat, this would be a far reaching acceptance. Years later when humanity learns how far worse trans fat is than saturated fat, people will feel stupid for conforming to a level of acceptance based on others.

Persons more concerned with the long term effects of social acceptances are more concerned with the initial response of these trends.

Answer 4

It depends on your degree of empathy. I'm relatively unempathic, myself, so if an unborn baby is sucked out of it's mother's womb with a vaccum aspirator or if a church sanctifies habitual sodomy as marriage, I really don't care. It has no effect on me, personally. By the same token, if doctors are jailed for performing theraputic abortions, or children are taken from loving parents just because they both happen to be mothers, that has no personal impact on me, either, does it?

I understand, intellecutually, though, that many people possess a much higher degree of empathy, and are concerned with what happens to other people, and people or the human race in general. Such people feel that they are harmed when others are harmed - so when innocents are killed, they feel that wrong as keenly as if someone close to them had been killed. Similarly, when society or humanity as a whole is threatened, they feel personally threatened, as they are very aware of thier status as part of that whole.

I understand that, but, of course, don't empathize with it.

Answer 5

If one person defines homosexuality as a sin, fine...but it is his personal belief and a personal belief cannot be forced onto others. Some people can't seem to understand that not everyone shares their belief...there are Christians that can read the same Bible and come up with an entirely different interpretation. An interpretation is simply an opinion...anyone who claims to know God's mind is a dangerous fanatic...We are suppose to be searching for His divine forgiveness not acting as His goon squad. I wish they would let God decide who to punish for Himself.

As far as abortion goes, it's close to the same, but there should be a limit as to when a child is a child and not a mass of cells....unfortunately, the fanatics from the Right will never be happy. Even if abortion was confined to the 2nd month, they would push for more and not be satisfied until contraceptives were abolished as well...thinking that to try to prevent a pregnancy was as evil as destroying a few cells...The whole thing points to the fanatics believing that they are the instruments of God's will...self appointed by the way. Man cannot know God's will and anyopne who says he is acting for God is acting political or just plain crazy.

Answer 6

It affects me because it affects the society that i live in. I speak about what i believe is right because i want to be proud of the world i've grown up in and that my future children will grow up in.

A person who abuses a child or kills their wife doesn't personally affect me, but i can still say it's wrong.

(I'm not religious, i'm pro life and i have no problem with same sex marriages.)

Answer 7

NOT AT ALL...this is why it is so funny that the right is always harping about those issues. Obviously , the vast majority of gay people are born that way and therefore, its not a choice, so if they love someone , let them love them, as long as they aren't trying to get at me, its cool. As for abortion, i am a man, therefore, abortion has no effect on me at all. I cannot give birth, so i don't have to go through the pain etc and be the one trying to raise a child as a single mother with not enough income. ITS hilarious that many of the gay scandals are involving religious right and family values candidates, that would be the equivalent of you saying you hate black people , even though you are black, or me saying i hate heterosexuals and i am one. Its so hippocritical. At least people like Barney Frank admit they are gay instead of preaching against it. The same people who are getting caught up in these scandals are the ones who attacked Bill Clinton for getting a BJ in the oval office.

Answer 8

Dear Asker,
You will NEVER get the ProLifers and AntiGayMarrigers to have a real answer as to how abortion or gay marraiges affects them personally.
All they can say is that "it's wrong" "it kills" etc...

But people, seriously, you people that are so against abortions: Would you be up to the challenge of taking care of these unwanted babies? You already complain about welfare and people living off the gov't for free. Well are you volunteering to take them under your GodFearing wings?

P.S. Marraige is not sacred, so don't front and say that gays can't marry. Multiple marriers like Pamlea Anderson, and anyone in Hollywood are ruining the institution of marraige more than gays are. So why do you hate so much if they do?

It's not like they're trying to pass a bill to have gay sex in the middle of the streets. But that's how you GayHaters see it, right? Get over yourselves! Not everyone believes in the bibles teachings, and not everyone has your morals.

Answer 9

It doesn't affect me, that's why I'm pro-choice and I support gay marriage even though I'm heterosexual. People who are against gay marriage have some unresolved issues w/ thier sexuality, & ppl who want to make abortion illegal really want to live in a dictatorship. I find the women who are against abortion either had children that they didn't want and want company w/ thier misery or are woman who's wombs are as dry as ezekiel's bones and want to live vicariously through someone else. Women who choose to abort as oppose to having a child they don't want, in my opinion, are extremely brave. It's worse to bring a child into this world and have it growing up knowing you didn't want it (trust me, that's what my mom did w/ me) and possibly mistreat or neglect it because of your resentment to you irresponsibility. And men who are against abortion have what I like to call ovarian envy or the "God Complex". Men control everything on earth except the birth process, that is in the hands of women. Making abortion illegall is just a way for them to feel that they have control over everything in the universe.

So in short like I said earlier, neither scenario affects me which is why I support both.

Answer 10

The truth is it doesn't affect anyone personally. They just don't realize that they have been sold a bill of goods by the right wing who has a vested interest in keeping people riled up and divided. Ooh, watch out! Marauding bands of gay married men are roaming through your neighborhood forcing you to have abortions. Better vote Republican! And pay no attention to that man behind the curtain who is shredding our Constitution and giving all your hard-earned tax dollars to his friends.