2007-10-14 09:30:55 · 36 answers · asked by Michelle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
DO NOT let them find out in school. That's the worst thing for them. It's best to tell them yourself at the point when they're mature enough for it and then have questions. Make sure that they know that it's between a man and a woman and that it should be saved till marage.
2007-10-14 09:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Peter B 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
When I was 13, I had already had my period for two years. So, around 3rd to 4th grade. Children are maturing into adolescents very quickly, waiting until they are 12, 13, 14 is usually too late and they already know. They will start coming up with ideas of what they think sex is when they are 7, 8, 9. Tell them when they're quite young, it won't hurt them or make them go out and have sex if they know the truth.
2007-10-14 10:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is younger and younger all the time. I think a lot depends on the child's maturity, friends, and school. Kids are hearing things in school and from friends as young as 8 and 9 years old. I would rather have my child hear the facts from me than his/her friends. If you start with age appropriate facts and leave the door open for questions and conversations with your child then. There are some really good books out there to help you with this. Check your local library or do an Internet search on discussing sex with your children. Good luck!
2007-10-14 09:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you start off by always referring to their private parts by the correct names - penis or vulva. Be open to any and all of their questions but if they don't ask - a good time to have 'the talk' is just before puberty - 11 or 12. Make sure you yourself are comfortable talking about sex and if you don't know the information properly there are books that can help you. I got mine from the Christian store actually but not because I am overtly Christian.
2007-10-14 09:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with kids having sex at 12 now a days it's probally say I would start taking about it at 10 or then they first ask about it and tell the truth don't make up little kid story like flowers and bees they will just get confused
2007-10-14 09:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by katzigirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
9 or 10 for the first VERY basic version since that's when they'll start noticing people talking about it. Add yearly updates to cover what they can handle each year.
Always answer any question they ask. If you don't answer it, they'll ask another kid, and that's how kids wind up thinking they can't get pregnant the first time they have sex, or that if they hold their breath they won't have a baby.
2007-10-15 01:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing as how a had a much more detailed overview of it by the time i was 10-11...i would go with a basic talk at like 11 then more indepth at 13.
2007-10-16 14:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister was 9 when they talked and I was 12 close to 13 so in between there is a good age
2007-10-14 12:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by ¿¿¿MysteryMan??? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered my children's questions as they asked them. Never found it necessary to tell a lie. Sometimes I told them they didn't need to know something just yet if it was a really tricky one. Mostly I told the truth and always put it in the context of a loving long term relationship.
The result is that they are almost adults with a healthy attitude to relationships and they can still discuss things with me if they need to do so.
If they didn't ask yet, maybe they already know.
2007-10-14 09:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by dizzzybubble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the younger the better as long as they are old enough to understand after all children are getting pregnant at 9 or ten these days.
2007-10-14 09:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋