My Dad died in August and aside from the very first day when i had to tell my little Sister i have never cried. I feel like a cold hearted Person for this. Does this make me cold Hearted?
2007-10-14 09:24:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No. This is a relatively common response--not as common as crying, but still common. There are many different stages of grief, as well as many different ways of handling it. This is simply your (and my) way.
When my dad died, I was only 12. I cried the first couple of days when all of the craziness surrounding it happened, but I didn't cry again for months after that. There is a chance that something will eventually hit you and remind you of him and bring you to tears, but if that never happens, don't feel bad. You know how you feel, and it is no one's business to judge you for the way you show it.
2007-10-14 09:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Not at all. Everyone handles grief in different way. It could be that you are a very logical, thoughtful person who is still processing the event. You never know what will trigger the opening of the floodgates. Could be that one day you'll eat some icre cream, remember dad buying you a cone when you were 5, and all of a sudden, the tears will flow. Could be Christmas. You might find one of his sweaters and the scent of him will be overwhelming.Or you'll rush into the house in excitement and be ready to tell him the news, then realize he isn't there. Just keep your heart open and be kind to your sister and don't be so hard on yourself.
2007-10-14 09:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....this doesn't mean you are cold hearted!
It's still a shock for you that he has died, and this wasn't very long ago.
You can be deeply upset and not cry, or you may find xmas a time when you might cry. It may not be for months.
Talking to someone about your feelings can help.
2007-10-14 09:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by moonbow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really abnormal. People handle grief differently. Some let it all out while others bottle it up. It could be you're holding back your grief and there will come a time when it all comes out. That could days, months, and even years from now.
2007-10-14 09:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody grieves differently, just because you haven't cried doesn't mean you don't miss him or feel sad for the loss so don't be hard on yourself you have enough to deal with, you will grieve in your own way,in your own time as there is no time limit on it as to when you should grieve and how, but it does help to talk about things please don't bottle it up inside.Take care
2007-10-14 09:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't make you cold hearted at all.
everyone has a different grief process. some people just can't let go of the fact their loved on is gone and cry incessantly for weeks. others know it's an inevitable process and their loved one is in a better place free from pain. yet sad, they choose to celebrate their loved ones life instead of crying.
you mourn the way that is best for you. i'm sure you loved your dad and i'm sure he loved you. i'm sure he wouldn't want you to cry over him. i know i wouldn't want my kids to.
2007-10-14 09:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we know it is for the best. Internally, you may have thoughts of him being in a better place, and nothing to be upset about. Everyone handles death differently.
2007-10-14 09:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you haven't accepted it yet. My father passed two years ago, and I still haven't cried. I think I'm just not over the shock of his death. I'm still in disbelief!
2007-10-14 09:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that other than that you've never cried.
2007-10-14 09:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be still in denial.
People handle death, in different ways.
2007-10-14 09:28:18 · answer #10 · answered by Stony 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋