He doesn't watch our daughter like he should and I am currently living in my sister in laws basement because he wanted to try moving to a bigger city to see if things would get better for us and all that has happened is he is keeping a part-time job as usual and playing that stupid game more because now we have high speed internet, He doesn't watch our child properly. He stays up all night and plays and expects her (she's 4) to watch cartoons while he sleeps. I am getting tired of it but I do love him and really don't want to leave him but it has been 7 years and and after all the promises to change he hasn't what should I do?
2007-10-14 09:12:48 · 6 answers · asked by chloesmom_03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is in his comfort zone and you have to either shake him out of that or leave him there by himself.. If you have a job yourself, put aside some money and get an apartment for you and your daughter and leave for a while but you would have to make sure that you have a daycare center for her while you work. What does the sister-in -law think of this? Perhaps you can get her to put some pressure as well to get a better job and get out of her basement. The fact that you have allowed him to do this for 7 years will make it harder to force him to change but if he doesn't you need to leave him so that your daughter doesn't grow up thinking this is normal. Good Luck to you !!
2007-10-14 09:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have discussed this with him before. Maybe now it is time to give him an ultimatum? Sit down with him and let him know exactly what you expect him to do and how long he has to make these changes. Also be clear to him what the consequences will be if he doesn't make the changes your asking for. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him with these changes. Then if he doesn't even try or make an effort to change you need to realize that he may not ever change and you either need to accept him as he is or move on. Tough choices I know but basically that is what it all boils down to. Your daughter deserves more attention than the television can offer. Best wishes to you.
2007-10-14 09:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all.. that game is just a game.. very fun.. i was a player myself. I am married. i have a 2 year old. I had the same problem as your hubby. best thing to do is to just quit playing the game. Didnt work? cut the internet its for his own good .. trust me. its not easy to stop playin an addictive game
2007-10-14 20:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by wowplayer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem. I have only been married 5 yrs. I couldn't get his attention if I was on fire. We have one daughter and he barely notices either one of us. He will change for like a week and then it's back to the same old routine. I am ready to leave but for her sake I keep trying.
2007-10-14 09:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cancel the internet, it will suck for you, but it should force him to stop. plus its a stupid game, its that or you get hooked on it and hog the pc
2007-10-14 09:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
cut the internet..! wake him up to how serious this is! so sad that we are losing our spouses to internet games..! good luck!
2007-10-14 09:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by gingersnap6565 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋