You get let go of someone that has changed your life. I'm not sure if anyone has felt this way before but i love this guys so much we've been on and off for about five years and we always end right back with each other only to go the other way again. I think that it's time to stay in the other direction but it's hard when you've been together for so long and were friends. Please be serious no stupid remarks.
2007-10-14 09:03:55 · 7 answers · asked by NA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not easy, but you need to weigh the pros and cons. What value does this relationship have? Does it make you feel good or bad. Make a decision and then, in moments of weakness, remind yourself why you decided to end the relationship. Stop all contact with the man. No texts, no emails, no phone calls...nothing.
2007-10-14 09:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider that relationship as a stepping stone to the next and move on. Try to do things that will help get past that and keep you busy - take up jogging, for example, or work out at a gym. I once read, and believe, a first relationship is never a failure if it leads to a second lasting relationship.
remember the Gestalt prayer:
I am I and you are you
I am not in this world
To live up to your expectations
And you are not here to live up to mine
But if we meet by chance it is beautiful
If not,
It can't be helped.
Just tell yourself that the differences between you and he couldn't be helped and the relationship and love to come will be beautiful when you come upon it by chance
2007-10-14 09:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write yourself up an emotional bank: one column for deposits (good things), one for withdrawals (bad things). Give each debit/credit a value. Work out if you end up in the red or the black, that might help you decide if you are getting more than you are losing. If you are in the red, just keep reminding yourself of that.
An important tip: try not to let sentiment get in the way when assigning a value. You need to be objective.
2007-10-14 11:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult situation. I was in something like that and after long enough I just realized that I deserved something more. You have to make an effort to move forward and not look back. You will probably always care about him but you have to do whats best for you. Good luck.
2007-10-14 09:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something called as MOMENT OF TRUTH in everyones life today tomorrow yesterday one day will be moment of truth it wont go on forever this way 5 years u should both know if u two are meant to be i was in same situation made a decision found out if we were meant to be or not then made a life decision based on it after we were together
2007-10-14 09:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by abrowneyesbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to move on. If you have been on and off for five years that should tell you that it is not right for you. Get out!
2007-10-14 12:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn the direction you want to go and never look back.
2007-10-14 09:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by nasreen 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋