I guess I need more support from you because I am so much lost after he left: I dated a guy for two years, he did not have any male friends except me, his ex gf and his ex wife. Whenever we had an argument, his ex wife would take him back. However, after few months later, he wanted to be back with me again. This situation has happened once in the past... Should I take him back this time? Or, should I move on..... What should I do? I understand that every couple had a history together, but it is harmful for the new relationsip if he can not move on from the past... how long I will get rid of of sadness...
2007-10-14 08:10:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
move on and find someone new, happyness will come.
2007-10-14 08:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are lost since he left but you have to find other things to do so that you don't think of him. Go out with friends, join a bowling league, or even take up jogging. It is strange to me that he has no male friends at all to begin with but the fact that he has an ex gf and yet goes back to the ex wife seems to indicate there are still feelings there and he doesn't know what he wants, so the next person who would write this would say that he has two ex girlfriends and he would be back with his ex wife again.
you need to realize that you can do better than that and find someone better than him but it will take a bit of time so don't be in a hurry to get into another relationship until you are over this one
2007-10-14 15:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they say it takes half the time you were together to forget about the person, meaning if you guys were together for 2 years it will take you 1 year to forget or heal. And that is exactly what you should do. A man should cut off all ties with his ex unless there are children involved. Even if there is children with her that doesn't excuse him being with her. You need to leave him because if he's done it twice already, then he will definitely do it again. This will just continue to be a cycle in your relationship. Leave this man and find yourself one with more friends.
2007-10-14 15:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lady, what do you really see in this guy? It should dawn on you the first time he left and went back to his ex wife when you two had argument. Then stay with her for few months and then he end up on your front door step and want you to take him back. Don't you see that he is using you. what kind person would run back to their ex's when they have an agrument with their current companion? The best thing you should do is to let him stay with his ex's since he like to run back to her. And you to move on with your life.
2007-10-14 16:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he is using you to make his ex jealous so he can keep going back to her.
Don't take him back again, he is obviously stuck in the past and if he went back to her once he will do it again.
How long will your pain last, not long if you don't let it. Put him behind you and move on with your life. Don't dwell on what could have been just get out there and find your future.
Good luck to you
2007-10-14 15:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you need to move on.
It's not fair to you that everytime the two of you argue he runs back to his ex with open arms.
Don't let him have you wrapped around his finger. I've been in a situation like this and I always ran back... and for what, to just end up hurt again.
You need to be strong and let go.. this is not what you need in your life. You deserve happiness and a man who is willing to work things out with you when you argue, not run to the arms of another woman.
2007-10-14 15:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU are not a doormat! Stop letting him treat you like one. Just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are right for you. Obviously he has issues to work out but he doesn't seem to care that it's affecting you. Moving on is the hardest thing to do, but take solace in the fact that you gave 100%. Eventually you'll find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated: LIKE A QUEEN!
2007-10-14 15:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jaded 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. you have to be strong here - I know you want him back so badly but you just can't accept this behaviour. It is never O.K. for a man to go running back to his ex wife with his tail hanging between his legs and doing to same to her by running back to you. Put your foot down. Tell him if he can stay on his own for 2 years then you will take him back but not before. See how he does!
2007-10-14 15:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let his ex have him....no sense in letting him keeping coming back to you when the ex kicks him back to the curb...the sadness will disappear with time....move on....you will be better off...
2007-10-14 15:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on....and as for how long will it take or you to get over the sadness....well that is up to you
2007-10-14 15:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
time is the key to a healing heart. leave him. he's playing games with you because you are leting him do so. someone else will treat you like a real woman needs to be treated.
2007-10-14 15:16:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋