im 17 years old and my parents act like I am 5. I get good grades, help out and dont think im too rebellious. I have a bf who I love more than anything and we plan to get married when he gets into graduate school and I get accepted into one.The thing is my parents absolutely cannot stand the fact Im dating which is weird because my cousin younger than me has had waaay more girlfriends than I have had boyfriends and they act like its perfectly normal for everyone else to date. My dad was jus telling my cuz that "love conquers all" but for me, its like a crime to date! Im going to dorm in college and have my own car and get a job but in the meantime, how do I get them to get over the fact that Im not a baby anymore??
2007-10-14 08:03:56 · 11 answers · asked by =) 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
they say I should'nt settle on one guy but I the guy I'm with loves me for me and respects me alot and I feel like my life wont be the same without him
2007-10-14 08:14:48 · update #1
Tell them exactly what you've told us. Tell them that you know they love you, and they want to do everything they can to help you, but sometimes the best help they can give is to offer some freedom.
You seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders with the plans that you have. It's just really hard for parents to see the child they have raised, changed diapers for, fed and nurtured as anything but their little baby. Just let them know how much you appreciate them and all they've done for you, but now it's time for them to just sit back and support your decisions and be there for you should you need it. :)
Trust me, I'm 22, married and have a little girl, and my mom still tells me "You shouldn't know these things!" if I ever mention anything about sex to her!
2007-10-14 08:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're 17, so that means you're probably going to school soon, right? Just wait it out. When you go off to college have fun! Enjoy your freedom. It sounds like your parents love you a lot. I have a 7 month old daughter and I'm dreading the day she comes home to tell me she has a bf. Just stay on your parents good side until you can leave the house for school. You can't blame them for acting how they do. They just want to protect you from all the nastiness the world can bring to a 17 year old girl. Its probably very scary to them. I can see where they are coming from.
2007-10-14 08:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by ErBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents wouldnt stop babying my sister until she left the house, and went out on her own, and wasnt depending on her boyfriend.
Im 17 too and my parents treat me the same way but I have to wait until im 18 before I can move.
I think you are too young to get married, and you may be in love right now, but people change as they grow older, and by age 23 you may not love each other anymore. I would learn to depend on yourself for a little while before you rush into marriage (as much as youll hate it, it will be good for you)
2007-10-14 08:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by shelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they want more from you than marrying the first guy you fall for. There's a lot of other guys to date in college, which could still lead you back to the boy you're with now. However, by dating a lot of lemons, you will be able to know later on that this person is without a doubt the one for you.
2007-10-14 08:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make them get over you being there little girl. They are being very protective, and that is annoying but in the long run a good thing. Some parents have a double standard regarding boys vs girls and sex/dating. Just keep doing what your doing and some day they will realize that you are a responsible young lady.
2007-10-14 08:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
meh, that's not too bad. i'm 15. i'm hardly allowed out of the house. i'm very rebellious though. just tell them to back off some, explain to em nicely that ur not a such a young child that you can't be out on ur own more. As long as you're not out like sleeping around or anything there shouldn't be too muvh of a problem, right? my mom can't decide how old i am. one second it's no, i cna't go out and have fun(concerts, she's a major pain when i ask to go, even thouh i NEVER ask her for money, other way around) and then she's like why don't you ever get involved in anything. she hates me. You're lucky they love you enough to care aboubt you like that. they probably just don't wanna see you ever get hurt or anything. ^_^
2007-10-14 08:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 17 so your parents are going to do this for another year and even then don't expect it to stop.
You are a child...you're a minor.
Sorry.
I know that's not what you want to hear but I'm not going to lie
Wait until college when your parents aren't around you 24/7. they know you'll go wild in college so they're just trying to keep you their baby for now.
2007-10-14 09:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Music 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will ALWAYS be they're little girl. they know what you were like when you were little. yes you're responsible: job, b/f, college etc but they will always see you as their little girl.
I'm 24 engaged and pregnant. I still love my parents and yes sometimes my mom treats me like i'm 5.. which is ok because her mom treats her like that too lol
just be glad that no matter what you do your parents love you. no matter how old you get you will still be their daughter.
2007-10-14 08:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by ladyamethyst83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is a boy and also he is not there child. That is why they treat him differently. You can't change how your parents think, trust me.
2007-10-14 08:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just deal with it moms do that i am nearly 30 and my treats me like i am 3
2007-10-14 08:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋