How was he/she with your child?
I am a single parent of a 6 year old girl and have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. He is a great guy, already in his career, no children, same religion as I, and is very patient.
2007-10-14 07:44:32 · 13 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
plenty of people marry others who have children & grow to love them has if there theres.Good Luck
2007-10-18 07:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not. Along with children comes an ex-spouse that will be forever in my life, and his.... baggage big time!!!!!! And thus when I was shopping for a spouse, kids, along with no education, a smoker, hating his job, etc., etc., were things that got a guy off the list for consideration. It is unnatural for a person to take on other people's kids.... dogs don't, mares don't, and in fact male lions kill the cubs of other male lion whose pride they take over...This is not to say that some do not, and many do so successfully, and on occasion blended families do indeed work.... but mostly that is tv fairyland Brady Bunch stuff. I wouldn't worry so much about death benefits (?????!!!)---a man can write his will any way he wishes, eliminating benefit to any and all children, and giving his estate to anyone he wishes... death, hopefully would be a long way away... It is the baggage, of someone elses' children, and the hassles that inherently occur in dealing with more people in one's relationship that eliminated any prospect with kids left to raise. Ex spouses and kids are indeed baggage.
2016-05-22 11:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy who married another woman with kids after my first wife threw me out. I'd had four with wife #1 and the youngest of those was already a teenager. Wife #2's kids were still in elementary school. I chose their mother because of the kids, in fact: I was dating a single woman who was a veterinarian but had no kids, and could screw my brains out, but the kids needed a dad, their mother needed help, and probably because of my previous experience with my biological kids, I ditched the lady veterinarian. Seventeen years later, I'm convinced I made the right choice.
2007-10-14 08:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great to ask people to share their experience with you, but remember, that every individual is unique.
Well, at least you did the right thing by dating for so long, before jumping into marriage, and you've had the time to see how your boyfriend reacts in the presence of your child.
What's more, you seem to have your priority straight, so, to me it says that you'll deal well with whatever life throws at you.
Good luck and congratulations!xxx
2007-10-14 08:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my husband and I had my own children they got along at first but then things went downhill and I am separated now waiting for a divorce my children are far more important to me than a man and when the right man comes along he will want me just as much as my children
2007-10-14 10:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not married yet (wedding 10th Nov) i have 3 kids from my previous marriage.
My fiancee is wonderful with my children, and forming a lovely friendship/relationship with them.
This was a natural process that grew with time, patience, people say it can cause problems, but they key is always communication.
2007-10-14 10:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by smileyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner had a daughter of 14 when we got together. She was a total nightmare from day one and remained so for the 17 years we were together. Thers something really scary about someone in their 30,s whose got married and had a child, still trying to split you up from daddy.
I gave up in the end. She got rid of her husband and moved in a flat with her dad. Weird or what.
2007-10-14 07:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We aren't married, but I'm in a relationship of over a year with my boyfriend who has three kids. Our relationship is wonderful, and the kids have been taught respect (on a kid's level) we both work, feel the same way about religion. I try to be patient with the kids, they like and respect me and I have earned some authority with them. They've never tried to come in between their dad and myself. Like most kids, they want attention and sometimes feel like they don't get what they think they should have, but that's how it goes sometimes, you know? I always welcome them and make them feel welcome and I think that means a lot to them and helps =)
2007-10-14 07:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am re-married. I have two children from my previous marriage and my husband has two from a previous marriage. So far so good. My husband treats my kids very respectfully.
2007-10-18 07:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by patience 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, mom was divorced when i was really young (mind you i have 2 older siblings) and she met my step dad duirng the time of the seperation/divorce.
they married 2 1/2 years after the divorce was finalized. in november, my mom and my (step)dad will be married for 16 years. my (step)dad has always treated us 3 kids as his own. i even refer to him as "my dad"....he's known me for 18 years and my dad for 16 so he knows me as well as my mom does and he's a wonderful man. he takes care of all of us and treats every one well.
his marriage to mom is what i see as a great one. yes, they do have their disagreements but at the end of the day, they resolve the problem and as in love as they were when they were first married.
2007-10-14 07:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋