Here is my tale: I believe I have depression. My husband and his mother constantly put me down. I never clean good enough, I am too "fat", I don't look right, I don't wear the right clothes and I don't make enough money. Oh and I am a bad mother too! I was a happy person before getting into this. My problem now is that I have lost 2 jobs back to back one just recently due to my depression over feeling inadequate. I simply don't feel like getting up and going in anymore. If i don't make enough money and don't look good why should I bother kinda attitude. Now he is threatening to kick me out of the house with our kids. I have no money I've been out of work for the previous stated reason. What can I do? I can't afford to move yet I mentally can't take the insults anymore. I have no family in the near area at all and most are deceased. What step would you take next? Thanks so much for any help or ideas..
2007-10-14 07:43:57 · 7 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband AND his mother put you down? Whose side is your husband on? I would say, get up and get to work, and bury yourself in your work, because you need to be out of that house, and SOON. Start making money, honey, because you will need it, and you will need a good job too. That husband is a loser, if you ask me, if he cannot respect you enough to stand up for his wife to his mother. Get yourself to the gym, lose weight, get back to work, and show them that you don't need a mama's boy anymore. And, you need to be a good role model to those children of yours too, because that mama's boy is not showing anyone that he is a good example of humanity. Good luck! I have been there and done it.
2007-10-14 07:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor and ask for some help, tell him what your feeling. Sounds like your self esteem is pretty low and maybe you need some councilling. Don't listen to what they say, who the hell are they? If you lost your job go get another one. There's plenty out there, and alittle money made is better then none. You need to get yourself together and straighten them both out, I'd start with his mother, she has no business saying anything to you. As for him, it will cost him more in court if he threw you and the kids out, and he can't legally do it anyway. Have you told him how you feel about the way he talks to you? Maybe the two of you need some councilling. Needless to say you should find some help with your depression before it starts having a negitive affect on you children. Good luck.
2007-10-14 15:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Ok, it's time for you tale to be over with. It's time to move on with your life and out of your marriage. Your "husband" isn't a husband if he's degrading you and putting you down. And his mother encourages for sick reasons. You don't deserve the treatment you're getting, and they deserve one another if they think it's ok to treat anyone like that. To start, find a job...then once you start building up on your paychecks, start finding an apartment. If you stay at your job long enough, you'll be eligible for benefits, and with that I recommend you to go through therapy, that way you can get this stuff off of your chest and a new way of handling things. I've been through it for different reasons, and I highly recommend it to folks in bad situations =) it doesn't mean you're weak, it just means you need to let things out and get a new way of thinking. Let him kick you guys out, if that's the case. I'd RATHER live in a shelter WITH my kids than to be exposed to his abuse and the mother's. YOU CAN WIN, it might be harder than you think, but it CAN be done. Good luck!!
2007-10-14 14:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your husband know how he makes you feel. Tell him you are depressed and don't feel like your old self. He should be supporting you, not putting you down with his mother. Try to seek help at a mental health facility, most help should be free. Then go from there. You should not be punished because you are depressed. Best wishes.
2007-10-14 14:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shrink, honey. I think you need to be on some form of medication as well as recieving counseling. Tell your husband if he loves you he'll be supportive of you rather than insulting you all the time. I would also check into public housing in the event your husband does throw you and your kids out. Good luck hun.
2007-10-14 14:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a doctor and get some medication for your depression, then stop being a victim and throw Norman Bates and his corpse out on the street. GO GIRL
2007-10-14 14:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bus ticket and go to the nearest friend you have.
2007-10-14 15:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Nessaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋