Why do some woman fight for equal rights so hard yet still expect men to give them special rights...?

Question

Such as :

-men hold doors open
-"ladies first"
-men pay the tab (usually)
-never hit a girl

and etc. I believe in equal rights and a few of the "rules" i just mentioned, but woman should appreciate all rights they already have.

Answer 1

most women think of equal rights as being paid the same as a man for doing the same job equal chances of promotion and not being overlooked because theyhave children or may want them in the future men expect their partners to be responsible for child care but are not tolerant of employees when they have to take time out to care for children i work with children and see it all the time when children are ill its usually mum that has to arrange child care opening doors is common courtesy and my husband does this because hes a gentleman its called caring

Answer 2

I appreciate the fact you hold the doors, ladies first but never hit a girl is a given. It is against the law to hit anyone so dont do us any favors if you don't want too. Men have lots of expectations for women we deserve a few things too

Answer 3

Well I'm not a feminist, so that is going to affect my answer a lot.

-Men hold doors open: Its nice when a guy does that, but its not necessary. Though a common courtesy for anyone (man or woman) is to open the door for someone else (man or woman) who's arms are full and wouldn't be able to open the door without dropping something.

-Ladies first: There is another saying, gentlemen ahead.

-Men pay the tab: I believe, that whoever asks to go on the date, should pay. Or both pay tab. (Unless the guy, WANTS to pay all the time, or the women)

-Never hit a girl: Never hit anyone. Period. End of story.


Although most of that is just tradition. Chivalry. It used to be common for men to open doors for women, to help them sit down at a table, to rise when she exited or entered a room (that is a LITTLE much), offer their seat if the place was crowded, and to stand closer to the road when walking. Many fathers who were taught this by their fathers teach this to their sons.

Answer 4

Why do some men insist that the above things you mentioned are "special rights" and not just plain "common courtesy?" If I'm the first one in to reach a door I hold it open, regardless of whether the person behind me is a man or a woman. My boyfriend and I take turns paying for things- we are respectful of each other's financial situations. Hitting anyone is wrong, regardless of gender. As for "ladies first", not too many people regard this as a right OR an expectation.

Answer 5

I don't expect doors to be held open for me simply because of what I am. I believe it's the person who gets to the door first should hold it open for the others. As for "ladies first", I don't expect anyone to insist on that. When it comes paying for a dinner, it should be whoever did the asking that should pay. If the woman asked the man out, then she should pay. I don't have any problems with that. Hitting is wrong and shouldn't be done by anyone.

Answer 6

some do and some don't; though the ones who don't are few and far inbetween. I can, perhaps count on two, not sure about that to tell you the truth. I don't believe in it at all. The men do their thing and I do mine; see that skips out all the complications and I don't have time for complications. As for those special rights I appreciate them when I get them; I don't get them be assured that is gal won't keel over.

Answer 7

Holding doors open for people is just common courtesy. It's never nice to just let a door slam in someone's face-male or female.

Most of the feminists I know don't support men paying the tab [most of us tend to go dutch], the "ladies first", and don't support anyone hitting anyone else.

And I really wouldn't call any of those "rights".. They really aren't.

Answer 8

I've held doors for men with their arms full. Who pays is up to the couple. As far as don't hit girls goes, I would think you shouldn't hit anybody without cause. I don't think anybody should have special privileges. EDIT Besides, like the answerer above me said, door opening and the like isn't a civil right. I've never heard of any man getting arrested for not opening a door for a woman. LOL.

Answer 9

The women who expect special treatment of this nature are more interested in non-discrimination than real equality. I personally loathe special treatment and would gladly allow the government to keep me from getting it.

Answer 10

you have a lot learn about the difference between respect, curtisy, and woman's rights. i under stand what your saying, but if my husband opens a door etc for me i like to think he is showing respect and not because it is my right.