all right, so I'm gay, only my best mate and another 2 person know this and they are totally cool w/ it and still love me, I'm 22 and my mom begin to ask(non-stop) or rater like persuade me to have a girlfriend as soon as possible,one week ago, she said she want me to go back my country and meet some girl she think can be my wife?!?!?! I'm live in another country by myself, I mean I could if I want to hide it, by I guess eventually they will know, I'm not in any relationship now but I'm wondering when I gonna tell my parents? plus I'm scared, depend on my parents' personality if I do tell them, they probably will tell to me change my name and never visit them again... what should I do? when should I tell them the truth?
2007-10-14 07:14:17 · 11 answers · asked by Brian A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you have to tell them the truth. there is no other way
2007-10-14 07:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by londonboy90102 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to start building your own family, so you will have a partner and lots of GLBTSA friends to introduce your parents to. You are 22, it is time to have your own life, and to invite your parents to share it with you. Good Luck and don't hide behind being scared. Tell the truth. It sounds like a very nice truth to me, and something that could be of benefit to people like your parents who don't even know you well enough to know better than to pressure you into a forced marriage. I say get to know them better, and if they don't like the real you, then they are not really parents, just breeders.
2007-10-14 14:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive Been Hiding It From Them For Years And I'm Still Not Ready... I Say Tell Them When Ur Ready..
2007-10-14 15:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't wait anymore. U have to tell your parents about your situation. U have to persuade them or leave them, that depends on their understanding. But u have to speak as soon as possible which will reduce some burden.
2007-10-14 14:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by dishwara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sexuality is your business not your parents'.
Are your parents from a traditional asian country? That could cause problems. You are not though, so I suggest you adopt the traditions of the country you are in and live your life to the full as a gay man.
Have fun!
2007-10-14 14:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Magic Bus Driver...your sexuality is your business....
Just tell your parents you don't want to get married...
be a "confirmed batchelor"... like in the 1930's...
I know you want to tell them...because its hard hidding it...
but you should tell them only when you can understand and accept that they might react negatively....
That's something that we all have to deal with.
Hopefully they will understand...
Good Luck to you...
2007-10-14 14:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by Julian X 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are you cant change that so you might as well tell and get it over with then get on with enjoying life in your own terms
2007-10-14 17:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter telling them, but YOU must say to them if THEY want to know you, they should contact YOU. expect them to dump you then if they don't you'll be happy. that's what I did and it was fine, you have to be strong and expect the worst. good luck
2007-10-15 07:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell them as soon as possible, it will only hurt more in the long run
hugs
2007-10-14 17:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Austin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should just tell them NOW! dont wait any longer..just get it over with..
i mean if they accept it or not..then oh well it happens.. :\
you never know..maybe they'll accept who you are..
its your decision its your life.
good luck<3
2007-10-14 14:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by W E E N i E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋