I recently got back together with my ex. Yesterday I found out I was pregnant, and told him. He blew me off to go to a drinking party with some friends. Then called asked me if I was lying asked what the pregnancy tests were to check their accuracy! I took 3 tests! He was acting extremely immature thats why it didn't work the fist time. Do you think he will mature?
2007-10-14 06:48:28 · 10 answers · asked by Mary R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
one big word..... NO. He sounds like a normal teenage boy when they first find these things out. Some boys actually come around to taking responsibility, and if you're lucky, he'll at least do that. But no teenage boy will ever be mature, period. Give it a little time, you'll see his true colors come out. And even if he doesn't want to help you out, give him two words, CHILD SUPPORT. He'll be in the hole for 18 years mama. Keep moving, and don't worry, it can be a struggle, but you'll get past that; a child a blessing, and nothing less. <3
2007-10-14 07:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - go see your doctor for a confirmation of pregnancy.
Over the counter tests are not necessarily conclusive.
You don't tell us your ages, but I get the feeling you are both young, and only time will tell whether he will be mature enough to deal with this situation. Talk to him - not a quick chat on the phone, go for a long walk or sit in a park and discuss what you are going to do.
There are support groups in most towns and cities that can give you expert counselling and advice. Talk to them - together if you can.
Talk to your parents - both sets- they may scream and shout, but no doubt they will give you the moral support you will need.
This is not something to be taken lightly, and as all major decisions involving more than one person, these things need to be talked about, not swept under the rug.
I wish you both all the best. and the little one too.
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2007-10-14 06:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by flondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're asking us but you know him best. You might want to look at why he was your ex in the first place and think about that.
Children change things but unless it's something you plan- you can guess that the changes are going to be different. Since it doesnt sound like you've discussed or planned this pregnancy you need to ask yourself why you didnt take responsibility before this and if you're ready to be responsible now. Like it or not- that baby is comming and the time to wonder about responsibility is over.
You're responsible now.
2007-10-14 06:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you were right about him the first time around. It is possible that he will stand up and take responsibility, but I serously doubt it will happen. Having a baby wasn't his idea and he isn't going to like the idea of being a husband and father. If I were you I would start thinking about what you are going to do without this bum.
2007-10-14 06:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by milton b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I think he is doing a fine job of showing you that he isn't ready to grow up, and obvious doesn't trust you if he has to check up on your tests. Sounds like you would be better off just putting him on child support. Good luck with your pregnancy!
2007-10-14 06:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by kiki72404 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one grows up instantly. Having a baby can accelerate that but not always. It sounds like he's feeling very insecure about the prospect of becoming a father. I'd remind him, that not all people become parents when they're ready and that you'll need his help now.
2007-10-14 06:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um..sounds like he's being a cock right now. When I thought I was pregnant I told my boyfriend what I thought and he freaked and said I was lying and if I was I had to get an abortion. but after a while he got excited and realized he was immature...So you know him best. But it can go either way..this could be his initial reaction..or he could just be a dick and screw you over.
2007-10-14 07:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by megan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he was actin immature but may be hes just scared. Maybe a baby will make him grow up. If not ur better off raising ur baby alone or find someone new who will love ur baby and u.
2007-10-14 07:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u get back 2gether w/ ur ex, then u will just break up again. if his friends r more important 2 him then u, then dump him. just cuz ur baby's father is him doesnt mean u have 2 date him
2007-10-14 07:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ALL YOU CAN DO IS HOPE THAT HE WILL. TELL HIM " WE ARE GONNA HAVE A BABY AND YOU NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY NOW" TELL HIM I A GOOD WAY. ASK HIM IF HE CAN ACT MATURE AND SERIOUSE PLEASE. MAYBE THIS IS MEANT TO HAPPEN. MAYBE THIS BABY WILL MAKE HIM ACT MORE OF AN ADULT. JUST HAVE PATIENCE,
2007-10-14 06:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by **prIncEsS gIrL*** 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋