My 15 year old daughter speaks very rudely to me and sometimes to her grandparents. Her tone is just plain rude and obnoxious. She does not like me to help her with anything and says that I treat her like a child.
She was living with her father from age 10 to 15 and is now living with me.
How do I check her on her tone of voice and make her speak more respectfully to me and other elders?
2007-10-14 06:48:07 · 18 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Discipline... make her remember that shes the young one, not you so she should be respectful
In addition, respect is earnt, not bought.. so good luck with that
2007-10-14 07:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all my mother wouldn't tolerate that from me when I was her age and definitely won't tolerate from my children, so your parents should be the first to speak up when she is rude or taking an attitude with them. And you need to set boundaries for her attitude (some attitude is allowed in my house but there is a line that can't be crossed before I take action and start taking away privileges and the privileges that are taken away aren't meant as punishment - no tv, no phone, no cell phone, no friends over, no going out after school, etc.). Get your parents to back you on this and you will probably see an improvement pretty quick. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-15 06:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...the question should be....how do i get MY teenager....or A teenagers!
--cuz not all teenagers aren't bad are "elders" just like to single teenagers out and say that they're all bad...
and im not saying your doin' it purposely but this is like the 545432215442 question i've seen basically saying teenagers are bad....
--answer your question: well she is still a child,
and sometimes you cant change how the child acts,
and im not saying you guys were bad parent( cuz i dont kno you)
but maybe as she was younger you guys let her slide w/ stuff which is now making her thinking she can get away w/ it....idk????
i say you should talk to her about OR take the things she likes and tell her you'll give them back when you see her frequently being polite..
2007-10-14 07:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ebeezyy ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your daughter does not see and feel you as an authority and nothing you can do will change her mind but getting her to treat you like an adult is as easy as treating her like an adult. If you act like a child she will to.
You can try going to see a counciler with her. See if you can make boundary"s for yourself and her. If you tell her mind her manners she will learn some and be respectfully to others.
2007-10-14 07:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers want respect just as the elders do. They're just high tempered when they feel themselves be singled-out, or belittled, or patronized, or when others seem to not understand them or their life. Try not to overly assert your beliefs or assumption without good reason to back it up.
Treat her like an adult.
2007-10-14 08:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by jm7 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
of course, but Im 16, and if Im ever rude to my parents, they're rude to me back.
They go with the "get a taste of your own medicine" technique
It works, so maybe you could try it.
Or just talk to her about it, tell her you feel very disrespected when she speaks to you like that, and she could be much more considerate for her age.
2007-10-14 07:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by marcelikes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always talk to her nicely, and then when she doesn't to you, tell her how horrible it is. Say it exactly back to her. I didn't realise I was speaking a bit not right to my Mum until my brother said it back to me. If she won't listen then it's just her being moody. She knows really and is probably sorry deep inside.
2007-10-14 07:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Josie L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
haha, good luck with that. It's a stage that all teens go through. Trust me, the last thing she wants is for you to tell her what to do. She knows your right - but she'll NEVER admit it. My advice; leave her alone. She wants to prove to you, herself, and everyone else that she can be independant and doesn't need mommy's help. She'll learn without you.
2007-10-14 06:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
her dad prob did things dif. tell her shes not with her father anymore and tell her to have some respect and talk to her father about it...but what am i to say im 13 but thats what my parents said to me one time ..so i started having some respect and started saying yes mam and no mam vice versa for dad but you have to have some respect for her too respect her privacy and everything else
2007-10-14 07:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Hayley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't make her respect ALL her elders. Cause we usually have respect for people who have respect for us too. If someone older than us is being mean to us, you can't expect us to respect them just because they're older, right?
2007-10-14 07:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋