I am due to give birth in a couple of weeks and am naturally nervous. I have just had my visit up to the hospital I will be giving birth in (well, it is the only choice I was offered a visit round). I wasn't impressed with their attitude - the midwife said they didn't agree with pain relief apart from gas and air and that women didn't need it! If something was to go wrong and I needed an epdiural I would have to go in a ambulance 20 minutes to the next nearest hospital as the one I am going to does not have an anaesthetist. I tried to see if I could give birth in the other hospital further away but because my midwife was late booking me in, all the visits are taken up already! Scared and anxious! I know this is the NHS and I should be grateful its a free service etc but I feel like I am being pushed into a drug free labour and my midwife has already told me she wants me to breastfeed without giving me the option!
2007-10-14 05:33:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Poor you. You sound like you feel you are being bullied & not being given a choice in your own baby's birth plans.
Go to your GP and tell them this and ask for help in getting a referral if possible.
Gas & Air is really good as a pain reliever in labour so please try not to worry if you can't change.
Yes, Breast is best - IF it is good for mother & baby. If you really don't want to No-one can make you.
Be brave. You can stick up for yourself and your baby without being nasty about it. Good luck.
2007-10-14 05:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by mezzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is your baby and your delivery--they cannot tell you how it's going to be. If you aren't happy with the hospital you visited then don't go there. She can't tell you where you have to go or that you can't have medication. Even if the other one is already "booked", go there anyway when you are in labor! The cannot turn you away because you don't have an "appointment". They have no way of knowing when you or any of those other women will go into labor--they just try to do that so they can be more prepared for the expected number of patients, but that's their problem not yours. I am 38 weeks now and plan to breastfeed, but if you don't want to then tell that midwife that it's your body and your baby and you'll do what you please whether she likes it or not. I can't believe how pushy she is being! Another plus to showing up at the other hospital--you won't get stuck with that woman delivering your baby. Good luck to you! :)
2007-10-14 08:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your pregnancy & your labor & your baby! I honor your brave decision to go with a midwife, but it sounds like you would like the security of the hospital. I think you should talk to your doctor about changing your birthing plan. It would not be the first time a doula or midwife had to go to the hospital! Labor is very intense for everyone & also different for different people, so you should feel as comfortable as you can. You can try drug free just as well at a hospital. But at least you have the option of epidural! You need to find a hospital that has what you are looking for. If you live that far away from "civilization" you should ask your doctor about inducing you....All things should be up to you! Good luck & God bless you in whatever you decide.
2007-10-14 05:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't blame you for being nervous, and don't they have to do what you ask?! So you don't have a doctor to talk to? If you haven't had any complications so far, you can probably relax and figure on having a delivery nice and easy. Sure, there is some pain, but keep telling yourself it will all be over in a few hours and trillions of women have gone through it just fine. If you don't want to breastfeed, put your foot down and tell the wench it is your body and your baby and you'll do it your way please and thank you for your help! See if you can find out other mothers' names that can reassure you of this service. The midwife or facility should not hesitate letting you speak to others. Good luck sweetie and you'll let us know!?
2007-10-14 05:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these are the only choices they are giving you, and they are not OK with you, then find another hospital.
How can they not have an anaesthetist? What if you need an emergency C-Section? This sounds like a birthing clinic, with a very specific mandate, not a hospital.
Do not accept their priorities if they do not match your own.
I had to have a forcep delivery with my first, and was on high alert for a c-section if the forceps weren't successful. Trust me, 'air and gas' would not have cut it that time. I had my second without pain meds and without complications, and it went fine.
You have the right to choose your birthing options, and if that place does not meet your needs, find another.
2007-10-14 05:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should report them to your GP. Ok i know its these midwifes job & they deal with births every day but you DON'T! You have to get this sorted or you will be anxious & nervous, you dont need to stress the baby. When i had my babyI didnt know what to expect at all. NSH were really busy & it felt like a cattle market but it was ok in the end. My daughter arrived in 18mins! i didnt have any pain, it was strange as i had seen so many programs of women going nuts giving birth. Walk lots like i did. I ate Chili con carne the night before birth, she arrived 1 week early, 3 other women had either curry or chili the night before & we were all early i think chili helped for the early arrival. Its your right to have pain relief. Good luck dont worry, it will all be worth it in the end.
2007-10-14 05:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by sarahmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm surely violently allergic to morphine so i became into no longer allowed to have an epidural. i'm no longer likely to lie. I had returned exertions which became into unfavorable. organic exertions is going quicker than a medicated exertions so because it relatively is the best information. I went into exertions at a million:00 pm ish and my son became into born at 5:51pm. It became into in common terms undesirable for approximately 2 hours even though it it does come and circulate. you have some mintues of soreness and then some mintues of none. while it starts to get extremely undesirable that's virtually over. For me the 2d the rfile walked in and reported it became into time...each and all of the soreness basically went away and the nervouness kicked in. all of it regarded extremely quickly between human beings coming to circulate to and my hubby being annoying with the video digital camera. the superb suggestion i delivers you is to respire while the contractions hit. close your eyes, think of approximately some thing relaxing, and breathe. wish each and every thing works out advantageous and good success.
2016-10-06 22:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, hun, it's YOUR body, YOUR BABY , and YOUR choice!!! tell them so. I have had 6 kids and I am a gramma. I had all natural, but with my last one, I had to have morphine, to get her born, . you are naturally nervous, it take it this is your first baby?? I understand. don't be pushed into something u don't want. Gratitude is nothing if it is associated witrh guilt. I can't breast feed, I don't make milk, and oh!!! the guilt I felt from nurses, other mom's and ppl in general, whom i had to explain that I can not breastfeed. hun, best wishes and let them know, it is your body, your baby and your choices!!!
2007-10-14 05:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can breast feed if you want.Ugh.....try to go to another hostital,take the drugs honey!
2007-10-14 05:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋