Mine has a couple of hours to live and I don't feel anything, I can't cry nor have pain.
2007-10-14 05:22:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Many thanks, It's good to see that I am not alone being numb in time like this.
2007-10-14 05:34:58 · update #1
Grief has many strange affects on a person. I went crazy when I heard my dad died but went to work as usual that night. People thought I'd lost the plot but for me it was important to do normal things and going to work was normal and besides I knew we were busy and I would be needed.
My mum felt relief more than anything. After more than 50 years with my dad she'd nursed him for the last 10 and she was exhausted. Then she beat herself up because she felt relieved like it was a selfish thing for her to be feeling, but she couldn't help it. The real grief came much later.
When the time sadly comes for your mum to leave us then you will react as you do. It's not something you can predict but expect anything. I had five minutes of complete numbness when dad went and then 2 or 3 hours of screaming. There's no set rules or books to show us how to do it. Grief is a very personal and individual thing.
And you don't overcome these things you just learn to live with it and learn how to handle it. I still miss my dad terribly every day but I've got used to it now and that's really the best anyone can expect.
Please accept my sincerest sympathies. It's such a horrible time. I'll be thinking about you.
2007-10-14 05:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart!
My mother died when I was a baby so I never knew her. It's the one big hole in my life that will only be filled when I meet her in Heaven.
I hope you can be with your mother to hold her hand and tell her you love her and that it's okay for her to go. I couldn't cry when my husband died because he was so sick and ready to go. There is a period of time when you may just feel numb to the whole thing. Then you'll have a time of grief when you will be sad, angry, denying it, then finally accepting what is and you'll find peace. Just be sure you don't leave anything unsaid that you need to tell her. I wish you the comfort of God through this difficult time.
2007-10-14 12:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I dont think you ever really get over it. Dont worry about how you are feeling (or not) at the moment - lots of people feel numb at times like this. After she has gone I would think reality will kick in - sometimes not until after the funeral. What a sad time for you and your family xxx
2007-10-14 12:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your emotions are inside, dont worry, they will come out when the time comes. Your grief is frozen at the moment because your heads probably telling you theres nothing to be sad about because shes still alive. I know the feeling. Its hard i know. You will grieve when the time comes, in your own way.
I am so sorry about your mother.
2007-10-14 12:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences. I sat with my Mum for a week before she died. I felt nothing but horror for her suffering. I held her as she died and felt relief. It took a day or two to sink in and then I started to grieve. My doctor told me it could take up to two years for the grieving process to be completed. Six years on and I still miss her each day but the pain isn't acute. I give thanks that she was mine for so long and we had a wonderful relationship and deep love for each other.
You will grieve, but what you are experiencing at the moment is normal.
I send you my thoughts and a hug.
2007-10-14 17:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different....and people die in different circumstances....don't beat yourself up wondering why you aren't crying, I expect the tears will come later.
If she has suffered a long illness, you may be feeling more relief rather than sadness, as her pain will soon be gone.
This is perfectly natural....if you are of a strong character, be there for other members of the family who are not as strong as you.
2007-10-14 12:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the help of family and friends. I had gone completely bonkers when my mother died, as she was my best friend and backbone. MY aunt had snapped me out of it, and I also had counseling, and it made me a whole lot better. I still have my moody days, but I know how to handle it....
2007-10-16 02:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Captain X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never get over the loss of your mother, you `get used` to the fact that she is no longer with you, but you never get over it.
2007-10-14 17:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY DAD STILL HASN'T GOTTEN over it but you can control your feelings
He still cries everytime my grandmother's birthday rolls around.
2007-10-14 12:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will hit you afterwards, maybe a lot later. everyone deals differently with emotions and loss.
i'm sorry about your mum
2007-10-14 12:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋