Wow...not very many smart parents here this morning !
Its simple...just inform your kid that you know theres a 'party' and if he does not let you know that he is safe at certain times throughout the night that YOU WILL show up there and DRAG HIM HOME in front of everyone !!!
Dont forget how OUR parents thought of the parties we attended back in the day.
If you are a good parent then your child will act responsbly...YES ???
2007-10-14 05:26:44
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answered by ? 4
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Put yourself in the place of the other kids parents. If it was your son throwing a rave, would you want to know? If the answer is yes, get in contact with the ex-girlfriend's parents and let them know what's going on. Parents are being held responsible for the actions of their kids. If something was to happen, the parent may be charged with a crime. Most raves I've seen advertised by teens include drugs and alcohol,so it may become a problem. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you can either mail a copy of the advertisement directly to the girl's house, or wait until the night of the party and call the cops. Hope this helps.
2007-10-14 12:18:18
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answered by Ki 4
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Last I checked, the responsibility of a parent was to be a good parent and an adult, not to be popular or loved by everyone else. Come on, while more parents should be checking up on their kids, you do have a responsibility to protect the other kids too, even if it makes you hated. You would expect to be informed by others if they knew, would you not?
How did all of this stuff become a popularity contest anyway? Part of the problem is that doing the right things anymore makes you the strange one. Fine, be strange. At least you did the right thing.
Watch out for your wife and her attitude too. She is more driven by the crowd which may make her more subject to doing whatever others feel is okay then she will be doing the right or moral thing.
2007-10-14 14:12:06
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answered by consider_this_today 5
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I'm a bit confused by your wife I mean, first she does the right thing by keeping tabs on your son's e-mail activity, its ok its called parenting he is not of legal age and kids really don't get the dangers of the internet not fully. They may think and say they do but more and more dangers present themselves everyday. Your wife is smart in doing so.
What is confusing is now that she has found something that could be harmful she is staying mute. Action is required when something is discovered that could potentialy pose a risk to your and other teenagers, they are still children needing a guiding hand and don't realize the dangers or outcome rave parties have many end up being seriously dangerous for young men and women.
I'm with you on this send the link to the parents if you have their e-mail or just talk to them maybe they are going away and they are trying to learn to trust their teens and don't know the trouble they are planning. I heard of house literally being demolished during one of these parties and kids ending up in hospital on overdose. Even if your teen has no intention of doing drugs or alcohol there might be spiked punch or whatever you know these days you have to bring your drink with you when you are out socially. I don't blame you for worrying, good luck do the right thing.
2007-10-14 12:21:20
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answered by Neptune2bsure 6
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That's a tough one.
I don't think you can police other people's children.
It's already taking a great risk to go through your son's private space, but quite another to use it to play detective when he has nothing to do with what's going on.
So, If you should forbid your son to go there, having him do something at home or take him elsewhere, but I wouldn't actually keep doing what you are doing.
If you're really worried, just this once, make an anonymous call to the police, but this is quite a tough one!
Morally speaking, it's wrong to use your children to spy on what their friends are doing. Your children are your responsibility, not other people's.
2007-10-14 12:27:33
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answered by Kc 6
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How old is your son? I think it's a smart move to keep tabs on your children & the internet. But if you trust your son and he has a good head on his shoulders then I would leave it alone. That is depending on his age. These days the internet is like a big party for teens. It needs police parenting every now & then to keep your children safe in the space.
2007-10-14 12:26:57
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answered by Jeanbean 1
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Best you invite him away for the weekend and then the Monday evening tell him you got a phone call about the party from another parent. Tell him people got hurt or messed up and you are glade he is not like that. After that get the school involved.
2007-10-14 12:31:41
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answered by Charles Athole M 4
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kids post a lot of stuff on my space that sounds bigger than it really is. If it isn't your child though I don't think it would be wise to get involved unless you know these other kids and you no they are in danger I would keep it to myself.
2007-10-14 12:14:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Your responsibility is to YOUR child. Of course, it isn't her right to know everything he's doing and snooping is the fastest way to ensure that your son never trust you or your wife again, but that is another issue. The issue here is that it's the other parents responsibilities to protect their children and not only that but you'd have to admit that you were snooping if you were to tell the other parents what these girls were up to and it is more important to keep your son's trust in you intact.
2007-10-14 12:15:04
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answered by hot_fat_chik1982 4
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I have known of instances where the police get wind of a rave and will be busting kids. It's your right to distribute flyers about this pending rave to various parents' residences. My greatest concern is the use of Ecstasy and other drugs.
2007-10-14 12:14:09
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answered by beez 7
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