Abortion advice??

Question

has anyone had an abortion? If so why did u choose to have one? And if u can tell me what is it like do u feel disguted in yourself afterwards? Please i need real truthful answers anything u know on abortion would help me. Thanks

Answer 1

I'd like to apologize in advance for all the rude answers you will get. Now, I will answer your question.
I have had an abortion. I was 17, my boyfriend was 16. At first when I found out I was pregnant we were excited. And then a few days went by and the "oh ****" alarm started going off. There was just no way we could do it. We were absolutely scared to death. I talked to my dad about it and I told him I was considering abortion. He called me a baby killer, said that he was going to put signs in the front yard saying that I kill children. He was VERY mean. I really don't have a relationship with my mom bc she kicked me out when I was 14. I live in MO and you have to have parental concent. So I did some research and found out I could go to IL bc they don't have that law. I looked up a clinic and called them. They set up an appointment. Getting there was very hard bc my license had been suspended and my boyfriend didn't have his yet. None of our friends would help us, and his family are strict Christians. So we had to lie. I got his dad to drive us to the train station (said I had to go see my family) then we walked 3 miles with a suitcase full of video games to sell so that we would have the money for the abortion. Then we caught the train to downtown st.louis. It was very late and we wondered around until we found a cab. From there we drove to Granite City, IL. I looked on the net and saw there was a hotel about 1/2 mile from the clinic. So the cab dropped us off there. Of course I was only 17 so they wouldn't let me get a room. (I'm not sure why I thought they would) My boyfriend and I slept outside of a Mcdonalds that night. It was September so it wasn't very warm. It was very scary and I didn't sleep at all. The next morning we walked to the clinic only to be met by a ton of protesters. I ignored them and walked in. I started filling out paperwork and they realized that I was a minor from MO. Even though I already told them this, they said I had to have concent. So I was VERY upset after all I had been thru. They gave me a phone number for a lawyer who could help me. So we made our way home. I called the lawyer and she helped me get judicial bypass. I finally broke down and told my boyfriends mother and surprisingly, she was willing to help. I made a new appointment and his mother drove us to the clinic. Again there were lots of protesters. They did an ultrasound and said I was 12 weeks. (I only waited this long because of the stupid laws) I was very nervous while I waited. They took some blood and then had me sign some papers. Then they called my name. I went downstairs and waited with 3 girls for our turn. I remember being very scared and my palms were sweaty. Then I went in the room. They gave me a shot of that made me VERY dizzy and It was like I didn't have control over myself anymore. I wanted to talk but I couldn't. They started the procedure and I was bawling my eyes out. The nurses said it doesn't hurt does it? And I said no I'm just SO sad. It lasted abou 2 mins. Then it was over. I had a panic attack. I couldn't breathe I was just so upset. I sat in a chair with a heating pad and I just cried and cried the entire time because I knew my baby was down the hall from me. They gave me some birth control and some other meds and I left. I didn't say a word the whole way home. It has been over a year and I can't forget what I did. Every day I pray for my baby, and I ask God to forgive me. Having said all that I am still very much pro-choice. Abortion IS NOT THE EASY WAY OUT. When you're pregnant, there is no easy way. I am not some heartless monster that some pro-life people say I am. I hurt just like anyone else. If you would like to talk with me I would be glad to answer. Just send me an email.

Answer 2

I have never had one. I had thought about it because when I got pregnant I already had one & 2 step-children & I didn't know how I was going to be able to handle it all. We had the appointment ready & everything but I couldn't go through with it. I'm now 27 weeks pregnant. I always said I never would even consider getting an abortion & it's really easy to say when you're not in that person's shoes. What are you supposed to tell the children you have at home why you gave their little sister away? (adoption) why didn't you want her? I don't believe in abortion, I think it's very wrong but I'm not going to judge someone else because a lot of women that are judging have never been there.
I am currently pregnant with girl #4, her name will most likely be Kathryn & we will call her Kit & I'm not sure how I will be able to manage but I guess I will just have to find a way. God wanted me to have this baby for a reason. We used Plan B after our "accident" & it didn't work & this is were our life path has taken us.

Answer 3

I've never had an abortion but a few of my female relatives have had abortions. I don't believe in abortion for myself I don't think I would be able to do it. But I think every woman has that choice for herself. I think if she's not sure she should talk with someone who is a professional that can help her sort her thoughts better. Someone who is in the middle of road and won't accuse her of murder and someone who won't pressure her to have an abortion either. It has to be something that she wants and if she isn't sure than she needs that person to help her better than strangers online who will either guilt trip her into keeping something that she didn't want or wasn't sure about keeping in the first place.

I was told at some clinics they do have people there you can talk to who will help you decide rather an abortion or adoption or even keeping it will be best for you. They won't just give you an abortion unless you were positive about it.

There are some women out there who didn't feel disgusted with themselves when they had their abortions, there are some who did.

Answer 4

It depends on the reason you are seeking an abortion and if you believe that you are killing a viable human being. One of my friends has given a child up for adoption and had an abortion. The adoption was much harder on her emotionally and did not turn out well. While she did have some feelings of regret after the abortion, they were short lived.

Answer 5

I had one some years ago. The main and genuine reason was because my pregnancy was the result of a one-night stand. The man in question had no intention of supporting me and I was a student. This to me would of been cruel to a child. I was very early on in pregnancy so I was awake when I had the abortion. Don't listen to the anti-abortion assholes who say it will mess up your head. I came away from the hospital knowing I had saved a baby from a life of being dragged up. Not long afterwards I met my husband and we had a child in the right circumstances. To anybody who asks me or likes to stir things up, I always say I have no regrets and I most certainly don't.

Answer 6

Never had an abortion but I had a miscarriage after two healthy pregnancies and it was so hard to go through. I had to have a D&C(like when you abort) because I was bleeding so much and the fetus wouldn't pass and I was completely against it. My doctor had to tell me that I was already miscarrying and there was nothing left to do but to get the D&C because I was losing too much blood to not get it. I have to tell you that that was the HARDEST thing I ever had to go through in my life. If things would have been different and if I had actually chosen to get an abortion to end the life of my healthy baby, I would NEVER be able to live with myself. For your sake and for your baby's, PLEASE do not get an abortion. Give the baby up for adoption. That is the responsible and respectable thing to do.

Answer 7

I have not had an abortion but I have had a miscarriage and it was the hardest thing that I ever had to process emotionally. I would give anything to be able to be pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy. I agree with the above poster that you may want to consider adoption so that you can give people who can't get pregnant the opportunity to adopt a happy healthy baby.

Answer 8

This is kind or ironic, because this morning at church, our Deacon was talking about abortion, and how afterwards, those people hurt inside (emotionaly), and how the best thing they can get is comfort. He was speaking about it, and said any people go to physicologists, and don't even know that that is why they are hurting.

Answer 9

I have never had an abortion but I do know that you will have lots of emotions to deal with afterwords. In my opinion, there are millions of couples out there who would do anything to have a healthy baby but they just can't. Maybe you should also look into adopting your baby to one of them.

Missy

Answer 10

I'm not here to batter you but, please dont do it afterwards you feel terrible & will regret it the rest of your life. Alot of ppl have been trying to have babys but, cant. They would love your child I would love your child think of you baby please? whats not meant to be wont be what is will be. God wants you to have to baby & that baby wants you as a mommy if you dont want to keep it atleast give it up for adoption that way you may be able to go back & meet them one day. Just think about it please? I wish you the best of luck sweet heart. & do what youo feel is right. For you & the baby.