We were married for six years and have a son together and things went bad in our marriage so we got a divorce. After about six months we started seeing each other again and it just didn't work again. I'm still in love with her but I don't think she sees me the same way. Should I completely move with the exception of issues that come up with my son or should I try to at least be friends and hope that someday she will want to be more than that?
2007-10-14 04:40:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You guys need to think of your son and find a way to get along for his sake. Truly, make this more about him than you and your ex wife. It didn't work the first time, you don't think she sees you the same way, there is no point in hanging around dreaming for the impossible.
2007-10-14 05:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do what ever your own heart tells you to do. My ex and I were on an all out war path for awhile and eventually things cooled down and we put our kids before our emotions(the best we could along the way) We have finally come to a place were we are friends. I will always love him and the 14 years we were together and honestly think i will also always miss the future we "could have had" but we will move on and be ok with that. Water under the bridge is water under the bridge. If you still have the hope of it working out eventually it is not going to just go away because a bunch of people tell you that it should, it will go away when (if ever) you truelly feel there is no hope anymore. Get on with life and be thankful for the time you did have together, it obviously was good to you.
2007-10-14 04:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by 1spencersgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God said that He hates divorce. If this is your covenant spouse (meaning the two of you have never married before) then you are to stay single or be reconciled.
You need to pray for her. If you put God first in your life, He will make changes in you and your wife and will restore your marriage and your marriage will be 100 times better than it ever was.. You need to stand at the gap for your wife and your marriage.
Please see links below for support on standing for your marriage. God bless.
2007-10-14 05:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you can't put your life on hold, while someone sorts themselves out.
If it's meant to happen, then it will, no matter what.
However, if you keep in good terms, it will benefit all of you, and mostly your son.
It's very stressing to be fighting against an ex, and it does affect the children, whether we want it or not.
So, move on with your life and make sure you take care of your son and respect your wife.
xxx
2007-10-14 04:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, It's over! Just leave her behind in the dust! But of course, you'll still care about your son...
Let me give you an entertaining anology:
If you really liked this car you were driving, then fell asleep at the wheel and drove it into a sound barrier on the I-10 In Los Angeles and TOTALLED the car, It's over! You're not going to be driving that car anymore, just move on and get another one!
2007-10-14 05:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by nitemareslayer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should move on with your life. You do have a child together so plan on seeing her from time to time for most of the rest of your life.It would be wise to be friendly towards each other for the child's sake .However I wouldn't pursue any type of romantic relationship if i were you.It sounds like both of you gave it enough time and effort and it just did not work out.
2007-10-14 05:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is much more pleasant for your son if you can stay friends. If I were you, though, I wouldn't hope that you two will get back together. Live your own life, with her as one of your not-too-close friends.
2007-10-14 12:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends with her for your son's sake. As for anything else, move on. She doesnt clearly want a relationship with you. If she did, it would have worked the 2nd time.
2007-10-14 04:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR SON, YES YOU SHOULD REMAIN BEING FRIENDS OR AT CORDIAL TO ONE ANOTHER.
IF SHE WANTED YOU MORE THAN JUST A FRIEND, THE DIVORCE WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED. IT WOULD MERELY HAVE BEEN A SEPARATION.
WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN IS SHE IS GOING TO MOVE ON AND YOU ARE STILL GOING TO BE HOLDING A FLAME FOR HER
SO JUST MOVE ON. YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE LOVE FOR HER BECAUSE SHE IS THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILD, BUT IT IS NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU TO KEEP WANTING THE RELATIONSHIP TO BE MORE.
2007-10-14 04:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
quit hanging on to "hope"... and move on with your life.
if you can't and if you find this to be a problem, please seek therapy for your own sanity and peace of mind.
you are divorced for a reason. it's great when you can get along, but i think limiting your communication to issues about the child is best, since you seem to be hung up on her.
take care of YOU... no one else will.
2007-10-14 04:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋