I've realized that my departure from the teaching path just before my divorce left me working in jobs that don't bring me happiness.
I communicated this with my ex in a letter included with my monthly child support payment, that I will be looking for paths to get my teacher's license (including taking the GRE) and that should my income change as I seek other employment I will discuss the changes to child support with her -- and that I will NOT stop providing child support for my child.
My ex called and expressed a lot of anger. It was as if she read only the parts of the letter that she wanted to, and looked for reasons to get mad. I can understand that she may feel frustrated that I've gone from one job to another in the last 5 years (had 4 full-time and two part-time jobs), but I have not stopped paying child support. If I am working towards entering a career I WANT to do, isn't that better? Do I not deserve to do something I like for a living?
2007-10-14 04:07:56 · 19 answers · asked by CarinaPapa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would be premature for me to say outright why she's mad but I guess she's worried about your child support and what this job will mean for your child/children. However the others are right. As she is your ex it really doesn't matter what she thinks about what you do.
2007-10-14 04:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she surmised something you didn't write. The "changes to child support" part are probably what set her off. Do what you have to do to realize your dreams and be a better person and parent. Don't worry about the ex. Just continue to document all and I mean ALL of your child support payments to avoid any nonsense later on. Good luck on your career.
2007-10-14 11:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have always paid child support, regardless of your job situation, she doesnt seem to have the right to be mad. Maybe she is more bothered by the fact that you are attempting to better yourself and may actually be happy by going back to teaching?
Good luck and follow your dreams.
2007-10-14 11:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, that is why you divorced her. She was not supportive. If she didn't understand you when you both were married, why do you think she will understand you now that you both are divorced? So, why should you still care what she thinks? Press forward with your life and your true talent(s). Never mind what she thinks. -It's not about her anymore, and she should already know that. It could be the reason why she is miserable and negative. -Good luck.
2007-10-14 11:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life do as you wish....if she has any other problems with your decisions tell her to talk to a tree or a plant or something.....I would do what I want if I were you. She doesn't run your life nor can she say what decisions you can or can't make in life...Its outta her control and thats your freedom of choice. She can take the money issue up with the judge if she likes...sorry but she sounds controlling and money hungry
good luck
2007-10-14 11:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are paying your child support,she has no business saying anything about what you do for living. And yes, you are entitled to do what you want with your life, but do keep your children in mind.
2007-10-14 11:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The advantage of having EX is that is none of her business what you are doing with your life. If you are meeting your obligations to your child/children then that is all she needs to know. Perhaps you should not worry yourself over whether she approves or disapproves. Who cares?
2007-10-14 11:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cars what your ex wants
so as long as the money flows in and you take care of your child
that's all that matters
more power to you if you can get what you want out of life
maybe she is stuck in her life's rut and she cannot get what she wants out of life
that's her problem
not yours
don't be surprised however if she hauls you back into to court to get the support order amended
she is one bitter women you had there
and as such they tend not to let any issue go for a long time
good luck
2007-10-14 11:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go for it! Remember, this may be one of the reasons she's your EX! Jealousy is sick... Unfortunately, it exists & bears it's ugly head when we really need support the most. Take pride in your decision & reach for the stars!
2007-10-14 11:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is angry, because she doesn't deal with her OWN issues. if she'd mind her own business, and take care of her own problems, maybe she wouldn't have the time to become angry about your plans
and why tell her about your plans anyway? she's your EX.
what you do isn't her business. live your life, realize she's bitter, and stop giving her information.
she's a biznitch
2007-10-14 11:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋