2007-10-14 04:06:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 15 years of marriage, I caught my wife cheating. It was an awful experience. We or I should say I tried to get past this and did what I thought was the right thing to get my marriage back on track. On the other hand my wife learned how to not get caught. I again caught her and decided that if she thinks I won't do that to her, she is mistaken. So I had an affair with a friends sister, then found her best friend was willing so I had sex with her too. My best description why I cheated is total revenge. And you know for all the lies and deceit my wife put me thru, I will cheat again. I'm not sorry I did. She has had more sex outside our marriage then I will ever know.
2007-10-14 04:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy123 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is always a choice and never a mistake.It can never be blamed on anything or anyone to justify it. Cheating is a selfish act and only happens because you decide not to walk away from temptation. If a a person can find the energy to cheat they just as well can find the energy to work on their marriage or get divorced first. No one ever causes anyone to cheat but the peson wanting to do it in the first place. If someone cheats and feels they have the right to come back home because they felt that they were entitled to it for any reason has some very messed up issues about commitment. Cheaters only think to come back because something did not work out for them in their adventure....but had the other person fit the image of what they were looking for they would probably have never returned! Now that it is over the cheating spouse only gives you two choices...1. you can get a divorce or 2. you can learn to live with it and you never fully recapture the trust in the relationship again. All emotions on every level are devastated and your world is forever changed as you knew it before. Someones heart is broken and it takes years if never to pick up the pieces. Someones self esteem is kicked to the ground and they never look at your character of morals and self respect the same way ever again. It changes everything!!!! No situation or event should push anyone that is married and already commited to another to put someone in their life through that and expect them to think that you truly value them in your life.
2007-10-14 04:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has no longer something to do with this guy. This has each and every thing to do with you! Did your mom no longer help you be attentive to to no longer have intercourse previously marriage? Gee - why is that? through fact once you do relatively stupid crap such as you do, then you definately basically teach to the guy which you haven't any longer any morals, no ethics, no no longer something different than a suitable SELFISHNESS to get purely what you like out of him! you probably did precisely what this guy did to you and you try to push the blame onto him on your guy or woman lack of understanding and stupidity? ok - he's trash. yet he already knew that approximately himself. You did no longer demonstrate something new here. What you probably did demonstrate is which you're a skank and can take a guy to mattress for what? there replaced into no promise, no vow, no no longer something of something to base any form of relationship on. you purely had to have intercourse with this guy. What a miracle! you got precisely what you needed out of that. And now you're pissed? Why are you pissed? given which you may no longer settle for the reality which you're this incompetent over your guy or woman character progression? For you notice, in case you will possibly withold intercourse until marriage, you will possibly have found out the reality. yet you do no longer care to be sure the reality given which you reside your life as a lie. strengthen UP !
2016-11-08 06:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by ross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have not cheated on my wife and have no reason to. Why would I have a Phantom Rolls Royce at home and want to trade it in for a Buggy?
However, I think that men cheat when they allow their lustful tendencies to overwhelm their sense of reason and they fall prey to their insatiable libido. This goes to both ways, for the man and for the woman.
Cheating is wrong. With so much diseases flying around here and there, such as AIDS, I must say that cheating is very dangerous. Stay true and be true to your spouse. Well, that is my take on this question.
2007-10-14 04:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by OGB 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
NO I HAVE NOT ! The reason is simple. I have chosen to build a family of three boys with my wife. I work 60-70 hours a week to provide for them. I goto work and i go home. I do not frequent bars or nightclubs - WHY ? Because thats where the slipping begins. If you make a commitment you should do all and everything to keep that commitment. If you CANNOT commit - DONT GET INVOLVED IN A RELATIONSHIP !
2007-10-14 04:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by untrusting 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I came close once, but thank God we didn't go through with it. It had absolutely nothing to do with my wife...she and my kids are the best things that ever happened to me. The situation arose out of an opportunity preceded by months of flirting. I was in college at the time and this woman was in most of my classes and usually sat near me. She was attractive and also married, and paid me lots of extra attention which, admittedly, stroked my ego. After months of this, (and as bad luck would have it) we went on a trip to a neighboring school to present our research, just the two of us. We spent most of evening in her room practicing our presentations--and believe it or no no alcohol was involved. Sexual tension rose through the evening and almost came to a head. Believe it or not, she was the one to actually cool things down by asking me to leave. I do believe, had she been willing, I would have went through it and made the biggest mistake of my life. After the event, I immediately confessed to my wife, who was royally pissed (as she should have been). We went to counseling with our pastor who passed on a great piece of advice. "Avoid opportunities where you may be tempted". I've taken that advice, and have never allowed myself to be placed in a similar situation. My wife and I have now been married for 15-1/2 years...and still counting.
2007-10-14 05:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are asking men for excuses you will find that some men will give you many. -Men don't need excuses. If any man is going to cheat, he has already made up his mind and doesn't need an excuse to cheat. (Vise versa)
They cheat because they want to cheat and they don't truly love their wives. It isn't just the men either... there are also some scandalous women out there as well.
What is that old saying? "Show me a beautiful woman and I will show you a man who is tired of sleeping with her."
-Good luck!
2007-10-14 04:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Cert en circumstances may lead such a situation.That will happen some time.In this world no body can say I am perfect. .Even great people doing those foolishness.But our society not taking as serious. Same time if it do an ordinary man that will become news among people around. .
2007-10-14 04:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Radhahu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To understand why a married man or woman would cheat is 90% of them feel "cheated"... The other 10% never felt they were committed to the spouse they were with to begin with, so therefore in their minds it's fun, adventureous, & "OK" because I never really was "committed"...
2007-10-14 04:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i passed up a lot of oppurtunities to have sex when i got married and i liked it that way. then little by little i started to see things about my ex, before u know it i could see right through her and she had to be always right, i was getting into agruements for working. thats when i started thinking differently, had the greatest affair after that, can't say i missed many oppurtunities after that.
2007-10-14 04:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋