Naturally he spends more time with his officemates..(works 8hrs a day).. But I get pissed off when he still hangs out with them after work.And not just with guy friends but girls from work too. They go out as a group. Before, it was fine with me when they hang out but there was a time when he went home very late.Since then, I get irritated every time he tells me he's going out with them...There's no particular person involve but I dont like the thought that he spends more time with his girl friends than me... Should I get jealous with the time he's giving his officemates?!
2007-10-14 03:30:29 · 14 answers · asked by baj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
add'l details: we are 4 years married.. have two kids..He's a very hands-on dad.. It's just this year that he started to go out with them..Maybe I was just used to him staying at home. I know his officemates and he's asked me once to go with him but I dont drink and would feel out of place because I'd be the only one not working and besides there's no one to look after the kids...
2007-10-14 03:56:14 · update #1
Listen in this situation he is just doing this as kind of an out of everything. It is probably something that calms him down kind of like a hobby. So you should encourage it but to a point. Don't let him go out every night. Make sure you limit him or he will start going out every nigh. But if he is going out with a group of people then you shouldn't have to worry about it him but still limit him to about 2 nights a week or how ever many nights would be comfortable to you.. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-14 04:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Travis L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure you should be. There would be nothing wrong with you tagging along to have some out time, plus put a face to your name , they will meet you instead of hearing your husband talk about "the wife" .
Work is work, and should end there. Your social time should be limited especially with members of the opposite sex when you are married. Alcohol can cause inhibitions to become less of a burden, the stage is set for an affair, even though people here on these forums will say I`m wrong, In martial arts , we learn how to avoid danger. The answer?
"Don`t be there".
If it`s social with male friends, no problem.If there are females involved and you are not invited to go out with them, just show up on your own if you know where they are. Pick a dark corner in the room and sit and watch , this will give you your answer..
2007-10-14 03:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be upset and jealous....going out once in a while with officemates is ok, but not if you do it on a regular basis.
2007-10-14 03:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shahbaz A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you guys married? If not, there is no commitment there. In other words, he's promised you nothing on paper. Either way, sometimes, when a guy wins the prize (you), he loses interest. You need to give him reasons to want to come home. Keep him interested in you with new ideas.
2007-10-14 03:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You went into the relationship thinking he "would change". Have you talked to him? Have you asked if you can join them?....don't join them if you are feeling insecure and find yourself with feelings of sabatoging the fun by snearing at a select few. It will happen if your going with the wrong frame of mind. Time for you to make a choice. Talk to him/accept that this is who he is. OR end it because of your ideals and not to blame him.
2007-10-14 03:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by kys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you should be jealous, but you should definitely be talking to him about it and letting him know you feel left out and alone when he goes out with his office buddies all the time.
I would just let him know that you're OK with it sometimes, but not the frequency he does it now. How can he know he is doing anything wrong if you don't tell him first?
2007-10-14 03:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should come home to you and spend more time with you. You should be number one. Work is different, but extra time with co-workers especially girls is just not right.
2007-10-14 03:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say jealous...but more like pissed off....He should be home with his family....assuming that you are married.....At the very least...he could invite you to go along with him if he MUST hang out with the people from work...
2007-10-14 03:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, ..... I would simply invite YOU to meet the group at wherever they hang out. After all, ... if you are his mate, shouldn't he be happy to bring you into the fold ?? Seems like a simple plan to me. !! But that is me. Talk to him.
2007-10-14 03:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be as devoted to you as he is to his officemates.
2007-10-14 03:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋