all he does is sit on the couch all day drinking beer and watching tv...he doesnt even speak unless some one pisses him off...the kids and i usually just pretend he isnt even there and do our own thing.....his attitude keeps getting worse and it seems like he is never satisfied and is so unappreciative of me and the kids and the things we do for him..how would you deal with someone like this??
2007-10-14 02:44:50 · 21 answers · asked by lisa p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seven letters-starts with D.
the only way he is gonna change is if he realises exactly how much you are doing for him and how things would be if you were not there, and the only way for that to happen is for you to move out-at least on a temporary basis.
2007-10-14 02:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell him to get counseling or get out and since he must not be working, stop buying him beer. He may be depressed about something but sitting all day drinking beer will not solve that and will only make matters worse as he becomes an alcoholic. If he starts to get abusive when you don't supply the beer, call the police and have him thrown out. If you file for divorce that may even motivate him in some way but life is too short for you to continue to put up with this and it is setting a very bad example for your children so you need him out of your house and life. If you are only renting, take the kids and move out yourself.
2007-10-14 03:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not so bad, my sister in-law has to put up with her husband being away for months at a time (he's in the army) and someone else i know, has a live in boyfriend who works on the oil-riggs 2 weeks on two weeks off. It's not ideal of course, but i'm sure you'll be able to cope, and it will make the time you get to spend together so much more special :)
2016-05-22 09:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an alcoholic and he needs help. Drinking all day will make you feel angry and he will have a nasty attitude. It's only two things you can do in my opinion. 1. Let him do for himself, like cook and wash his own clothes and go get his own product or 2. Get him some help for his drinking problem before he get really sick and make the household worst then what its already is. Because your kids don't need to see their father destroying his life.
2007-10-14 03:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcoholism is a disease, and depression, an illness.
your husband has issues if all he can do is drink beer and lay around. he obviously needs some help, and if he won't get any, then i would suggest you do what is the healthiest for YOU.
i would let urge him to get help... if he gets on his high horse, give him "conditions" for your marriage to stay together.
why are you doing things for someone who does nothing for you? i have to wonder.
meanwhile, try Alanon -- it's a support group for people who are living with an alcoholic. it can be very helpful and you will find people who seem to be living the same life you are....
i hope things work out for you, hon. sending hugs.
2007-10-14 02:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. Alcohol in the body of alcoholics makes them want to drink more unlike a normal person. Then they get more depressed so that they dont care if they ever change. He probly also has a bad past. He needs help or need to hit bottom. Hes not gonna change by himself. Talk to a Pastor.
2007-10-14 02:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack his bags and throw him out. Unless you want to live like that. Don't you want a real husband to hold and love and help raise the family? Seems like he is just a waste of skin. It's easier said than done I will admit but I don't see any other way around it.
2007-10-14 03:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife you are obligated to do all you can to save your marriage.But if you feel that you have done all that you can possibly do than it might be time to suggest counseling and if he wont cooperate than I would say enough is enough and see a divorce lawyer.It sounds like this marriage is making everyone including the children miserable.
2007-10-14 03:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sits on the couch drinking beer all day? How do the bills get paid?
2007-10-14 02:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want a divorce, if he love you, that should start him thinking. Or he has a real self-esteem problem, and can't deal with it. Have you tried talking to his parents, to see if there is a problem your not aware of? He probably seems overwhelmed by his situation, and sees no way out. He sounds very depressed.
2007-10-14 02:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋