I dated a guy for two years, he did not have any male friends except me, his ex gf and his ex wife. he is 15 years older than me. Whenever we had an argument, his ex wife would take him back. However, after few months later, he wanted to be with me again. This situation has happened once in the past... Should I take him back this time? Or, should I move on..... What should I do? I understand that every couple had a history together, but it is harmful for the new relationsip if he can not move on from the past....
2007-10-14 02:39:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he is using both of you, yourself and the ex wife. When one doesn't meet his standards he goes to the other until he feels she let him down and goes back to the first.
He's a user and you both should show him the door.
2007-10-14 02:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can't be a future without the past and as long as his ex-wife takes him back whenever the two of you have an argument, that is not the past, it is the present. I think every guy I know has some kind of male friends so the fact he does not is strange in and of itself. You need to move on. The fact that he has an ex girl friend as well as an ex wife tells me that he doesn't know what, or who, he wants and you will only end up being hurt in the long run unless you break free from his pattern and create one of your own with someone who goes from present to future, not present to past.
2007-10-14 09:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can not move out of the past and on with you. He runs to the past when things get a little rough. I would move on because you will never have him to yourself. His ex will always be there. He needs to grow up before he can commit himself to a real relationship. Don't invest anymore time in this relationship as you will only be the third wheel.
2007-10-14 09:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying. Burned once: Shame on him. Burned twice: Shame on me. In other words, the first time it happened, you weren't at fault. If you let him do it to you again, it is your fault. If you take him back, you are telling him it is ok to treat you like this. You deserve better & there is someone out there who will give you what you deserve & who will deserve what you can give him.
2007-10-14 09:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by kokochin01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he runs away from problems, unable to deal with it, and if he is going to be so flippant about returning to the ex every single time he doesn't get what he wants when he wants it, its just going to be wasting your time and energy. he knows he always has somewhere else to go when storms come and they always do.
2007-10-14 10:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋