my daughter is 23 years old she has her own house but her dad and step sisters never go and see her only when they want a babysitter but when something good happens like when she was geting married the step sisters where wedding planners i had no choice or say in anything which hurt me very much i wasn't even on the top table she is now expecting i told my nieghbour how excited i was her step sister found out and told my daughter and we fell out over it.
2007-10-14 02:03:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like your daughter wanted to be the one to tell the others she is pregnant. Am I right? And you took a little of that thunder away when you started to tell other people. Did she ask you not to, and you let it slip?
Maybe she just wanted to share it with you for the time being, perhaps she's a little scared it wouldn't make it through. Is it her first?
Either way its not unforgivable, and I hope she will get over it, after all your going to be a grandma soon. Try to make it up to her. Just remember how emotional this time is, and be gentle with her.
2007-10-14 02:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a mother/daughter chat. You don't say if you've always enjoyed a close relationship with your daughter but presuming you have I'd arrange to meet with her somewhere for a cuppa. Or write to her. I say this a lot on here but letters are great because you have time to carefully think about what you want to say and when your daughter comes to read it she can't interrupt you or cut you down as you speak.
It's only natural that you're excited about the baby. If it's gossiping your daughter is accusing you of then it's only gossip if it's bad to my mind. There is a difference.
There does appear to be a bit of a rift caused by the step sisters. It's nice that they're close but your daughter needs to know that it hurt you to be disregarded like that. However I might add that it was her wedding and she was entitled to do as she wished but it does seem a bit cruel and thoughtless.
2007-10-14 09:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should build a strong communications bridge with your daughter. Talk to her about anything that might be bothering you. After all, she's from your blood and loves you.
Don't get affected psychologically also. Sometimes, we tend to think about things that are unfair, but really weren't meant against us. Those are psychological factors that make you look into the negative side of things.
Also, mingle with her step sisters also. Go out for a dinner or something with your daughter and your step sisters. This will melt down all their "rotten or harsh" feelings they may have against you. And they might even call you up again another time to ask you out again.
Be kind, gentle, and sweet while approaching them. By doing that, you'll be loved more by anyone.
Don't worry. You'll be fine. Just do the sweet things and talk to your daughter gently.
Hope this helps :)
2007-10-14 15:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Coconut Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are giving us all the details. It is hard to tell what exactly is the problem but I agree with everyone else. You need to talk with your daughter. It sounds like she gets along well with her step sisters if she asked them to be wedding planners and the problem she has is with you, seeing as she didn't put you at the head table with the rest of the family. I don't understand why she would be upset with you for being excited about her pregnancy. Maybe she didn't want you to announce her pregnancy? It sounds like there are a lot of other issues there besides the pregnancy.
2007-10-14 09:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by binreddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, there is more to the story than what you are telling us, something must have happened for her to have these issues with you, something big.
My advice, would be to hang low, and give her space and time, the more you crowd her, the more she is going to pull away, and it is hurting you when she pulls away, just leave her be and give her time to deal with whatever is bugging her.
She is pregnant, and you do not want to put any more stress on her or the baby than what she already has.
She will tell you in time, and if time is what it takes, then time is what you should give her.
I hope you resolve your situation, I will pray for the both of you,
God bless,
Carrie Green :) !!!!
2007-10-14 09:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your daughter be upset that you are excited about her expecting a baby? There has to be more to the story.
2007-10-14 09:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by slv02 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try and talk it through with your daughter...
2007-10-14 09:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by doodle_bug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋