Well, she told me about this recently and its kinda made me feel uncomfortable whenever I'm with her. What should I do?
2007-10-14 01:13:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just act normal. She's telling you cuz she trust you. She's your best friend, by telling this, I think she just wants to share something that she could not share with anyone else. Don't be scared if she would fall for you or anything. Trust me you would not want to lose a best friend just because of this. As a best friend, you need to support her.
2007-10-14 01:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stranger on the Bus 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Now some advice from an older lesbian!
Lets reverse the tables for a moment please.
Lets suppose the Gay/lesbians etc. were the majority of folks in the world & the straights were the minority.
You told your best friend ( a lesbian) that you were straight-how would you like her to react?
If you take away all the crap (religion, sexual preference, etc.) that gets in the way of friendships & love this world would be a great place.
If you had something to share: Good, bad, indifferent, you'd want your friend to be there.
Believe it or not, most of my true friends are straight, & we all have great fun together & our friendships have lasted for years.
2007-10-14 09:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by dragon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do. What would you do if you realized one of your best male friends was heterosexual? You've probably already made friends with a guy who's straight. He could wind up liking you at any time, but that's not something you obsess about. You continue to be his friend. If he likes you and you like him, you date. If he likes you but you don't feel the same way, you tell him so in a nice way and try to stay friends.
If this person is really your best friend, then there should be other things on your mind right now--like your best friend. She's probably nervous that you know, worried you'll reject your friendship because you may have something against gay people, and struggling with relationship issues she's never been able to tell you about. Forget about the gay part and focus on the friend part.
2007-10-14 08:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel uncomfortable, she is your friend, I'm sure she respects you enough to not do anything that might make you feel uncomfortable, she told you because she trusted you, and the way you feel is something that you need to work out within yourself. If you are comfortable with your own sexuality, than hers shouldn't be a problem. So maybe talk to her a little bit, or someone else who understands more about it, I think talking about it would make it easier for you, whether you talk with her or with someone else you can trust with the information. Good Luck
2007-10-14 08:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't worry. It's all a good thing. She found out who she really was! Be happy for her! She told you this because you are her best friend! Don't let her down.
There's nothing to feel uncomfortable about. She acts the same way she did before she came out to you, right? Accept her for who she is. She is still who she is.
If what you're nervous about is you think she's attracted to you, just tell her that you don't like her like that. I think she'll understand. Be there for her, okay?
2007-10-14 08:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kiefer H 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's your friend. She's never hit on you before, she's not going to start now just because you know. That's what you're afraid of. She's still the same person she just loves differently. you'll get used to it. My best friend is a lesbian too, and she's the most awesome person in the world.
2007-10-14 08:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by jo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No no no! Don't do this, sweetie! She's your best friend, and lesbians aren't attracted to every female they set their eyes upon. I'm sure you have straight guy friends that don't hit on you, so what is the difference in this situation? It might take some time to get used to, but please don't abandon her! She needs you now more than ever and you have to get over your insecurities to be there for her. Please, I'm begging you to understand that your friendship can survive this!
2007-10-14 08:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Candy , she need u more than any thing right now , dont do any thing just be there for her shes ur best friend, plz dont leave her if u do its ur loss n that b sad =(
2007-10-14 08:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
How can you do that to her??! She is your best Friend..
You should be glad she is coming out to you cause she think that you are the one that she can only trust!!
Take it or you will lost her.. End..
2007-10-14 08:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by *slush.* 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Candy and Shen, stick with her..chances are she doesn't like you that way..
2007-10-14 09:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by cutegirlin_tn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋