I am a father of 3 teenagers that was asked to leave my house by my wife. So I did, and moved in a room and worked a dead end job. I had a great job but due to my age was laid off and forced to take a dead end job. My wife would not let me see the kids on a regular basis, god knows I ask. So i decided to improve my career and took a job overseas teaching in Manila, but it would not pay great but I could increase my pay as I got more experience. My wife makes a 6 digit salary so I thought it would be a good time to get my career in order because I could not contribute much for a few months. I have sent hundreds of email to the kids and letters but my oldest daughter is the only one that stays in touch. I will soon move onto my better teaching job and be able to send more money back home and in about 1 years go home myself, I hope I am doing the right thing?
2007-10-14 00:12:27 · 5 answers · asked by uglybird1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you are. And good on you for fighting where others would have given up.
You sound like a survivor and a fighter. Fab!!!
Maybe your other children don't remain in touch because they are teenagers, and are at that silly age where friends, girlfriend and boyfriend matter more than family.
Just keep doing your best, for yourself and your children.
And again, good on you.
You're bound to find a great woman sooner than you think.
xxx
2007-10-14 00:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my prospective, you are doing the best you can not only for yourself but your family. I am not quite sure where you live, however, in the U.S., there are laws protecting the rights of both parents, and certainly if you are divorced, which you don't say, the divorce degree would have each rights as a parents written out in black and white. At any rate, you are trying to get your career off the ground, your wife is able to support your daughters, so the only problem is not being able to see your children. They are teenagers and should have been spoken to about why you left and how difficult your position was working and not being able to improve your career. They are the main reason you chose to try to advance yourself to be able to support them.
I would not beat myself up psychologically over your situation. The thing is you are trying and that is all you can do. Continue trying to reach out and keep in contact with the children, even by e-mail, however, I would also write letters and send cards of endearment of how much you love them. Best of life to you my friend.
2007-10-14 07:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is what is right for you. You have to make the best decision for you and your family. I am sorry your kids are not keeping in touch with you as you would like. Your wife has been wrong in not letting you see them as much.
Good luck on your new job.....
2007-10-14 07:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You wanted to increase the time you had with your children, so you moved thousands of mile away?
This sort of twisted logic may work is your alcoholic brain, but it's not going to fly with me.
Get sober. Hire a lawyer. The fix this problem along with the rest of the problems in your life.
Good luck.
2007-10-14 07:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should of gotten a court visitation order instead of wasting time asking her.
2007-10-14 07:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋