2007-10-14 00:11:58 · 16 answers · asked by Quel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When she stops making him happy. She cannot change the person he married. Of course things are going to change when they get married, but it should get better and marriage should just be making them closer. You can never be a pain in the a s s.
Marriage is excellent when a couple gets married only because they truly love eachother, they could never be apart and then want to share their lives together till death do them part. They have to take care of eachother, not themselves and they both have to make all the decisions together. For example; the man has to want a child just as much as the woman does so both of them will be raising the child. That marriage will only become stronger.
If two selfish people get married too young or too soon, or because she's pregnant, or because they need a place to live, or because they think they love eachother, that's a divorce!
Woman could have any man eating out of the palm of their hands, but they don't know how easy that is. You have to take care of your man if you want him to take care of you. You have to make a man LOVE to come home and when he does come home, you have to stop whatever you are doing, run up to him, kiss him, hug him and tell him you missed him. You have to always show your love and respect and always compliment him on things like: how much you love him, how gorgeous he is, how sexy and excellent he is in bed and how no man is better than him, etc.
THAT MAN WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE...
2007-10-14 01:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Usually when they stop making such an effort to enjoy and appreciate each other!
It is so easy to become complacent and take each other for granted. When we first get together we make a real effort to look great, and treat each other well - then life just starts getting a bit boring so we stop trying.
Most marriages I know of hit a danger zone at about 9 years - and its almost gold medal stuff lasting that long.
It is far to easy and acceptable to break up - its just an easy way out, instead of trying.....but if you find you made a mistake, and/or you are really unhappy, you have a duty to yourself to be happy. You can't make someone else happy unless you are - and who knows, you may have just realised that you never really loved them in the first place - you were just in love with feeling in love.
Also, there is a big difference between no longer 'being in love' and not loving someone. Or maybe you are just bored.
A good question, and a hard one to answer quickly.
2007-10-14 00:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by max50 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he doesn't get any comfort from his wife,he will fall out of love.
As his wife,you must comfort him all the time,especially after working in the office. He will feel tired. You should make a more comforting situation at home,like massaging him or you may wear a transparent cloth to let him be fresh. After not having sex for a long time,both of you had better have it. If he doesn't start it, you may start it first. There's nothing wrong if woman start sex first. It's possible if you don't let him have sex with you, he will have it with other women. You have to know that guys can't live in this earth without having sex!
You must always keep you appearance look good, so that he will satisfy with your appearance.
2007-10-14 02:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nicky 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When the wife they married only wants to have her way and her way alone. When she refuses to listen to the voice of reason and chooses to do her own things. When she relaxes too much - the things that she use to do before that initiated the love sparks is thrown into the back burner. When she refuses to reach a compromise on important issues marks the beginning of trouble in the relationship. When the wife becomes selfish and refuses to give, but rather wants to take, take, and take. When rudeness takes the place of respect, guys become disinterested.
A marriage union needs a lot of work to be a successful one. It needs the conscious effort of two individuals, husband and wife, to make the marriage successful. When one party is willing to build and the other is not, it will only lead to a shipwreck. It takes two to tango, and were one is willing to tango and the other is not, then they will inevitably go their separate ways in the quest of other partners who are willing to tango (however, this should not be so). It requires a concerted commitment to build a home that will succeed. In the absence of this, partners will easily fall out of love with each other.
2007-10-14 04:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by OGB 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont fall out of love with anyone, because if you truly love somebody, it is forever! This means even if your still not with that person or even if your living apart, or they have passed away, loving someone is forever! So Im guessing this guy, never loved his wife to begin with. He had the feelings of lust and admiration, but not love. This is the problem we have in marriages today, people are getting married for the wrong reasons, this is why I always advise my family and friends to get to know the person your marrying, and make sure you know the difference between love and lust, and above all else, marry your best friend!
2007-10-14 00:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
About the same time married wives fall out of love with their husbands.
To put it simply and coldly, its a matter of cost analysis. A husband (or wife) gives up a certain amount of things when he gets married. Among these are the freedom to come and go as he pleases, to see anyone he wants to and to spend his money on anything he sees fit.
Therefore, what he gets in return has to outweigh those things. What he gets in return (amongst other things) is companionship, sexual gratification, and help in those things that he might not be good or interested in.
Using this as a basis, a guy would fall out of love with his wife when she is not there for him, she is constantly complaining about things, loses the interest to have sex with him or the sex is no longer satisfying (maybe she's unwilling to do the things he wants or lets herself go), or refuses to do help with the things he needs.
2007-10-14 00:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When they fall back in love with themselves.
It typically happens the moment that the couple stops dating each other. For some odd reason, we get it in our heads that once we are married, we can quit trying to impress! How stupid. Never let a guy get comfortable; you can't slack at work and keep your job, right? Same goes for marriage. Don't slack off!
Never quit dating your spouse (once a week minimum), and always always keep the lines of communication healthy. A couple quits talking to each other, they'll soon start talking to other people.
2007-10-14 02:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by shinelove8702 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
About a minute after he says I do. No really it depends on certain aspects. Biologically men are to roam and breed while women hold on for protection. Please don't call me a sexist. This is what I have read before. I believe simple things hold the relationship together. Men whether the say it or not they have fragile egos. They love to know they are your number 1. Little compliments (Not too many) keep his ego up therefore his interest as well. Trust is a big issue. Men like to be free and by that I mean a night out with the guys will do wonders. Constricting a man by control is most often doom. Their are so many other reasons to test a relationship, but open communication without fighting seems to be the best cure. Unfortunately some men fall out of love for no reason.
2007-10-14 00:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Ed 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Some good answers here, and some bad ones.
The only thing that destroys relationships is secrets ... and, if they were truly in love in the first place, they never fall out of love, it just gets hidden and distorted.
It is possible to get things back to the way they were, but it's not easy.
The answers you're looking for are here, they explain how it should be, how it goes wrong and how it can be fixed.
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/SH13.HTM
Good luck.
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2007-10-14 00:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some men fall out of love when the honeymoon stage ends, and they no longer feel the lust they once felt, some men leave whenever there are any problems or fighting, but a man of integrity knows that feelings are just feelings and can change frequently, and refuse to leave just because the circumstances at the time don't suit them.some men will honor their commitment no matter how they feel, because real love isn't about feelings, they are about a decision made and a promise to stay even when the storms come.
2007-10-14 03:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋