Just married and husband always wants sex?

Question

I'm 18 and he's 27. I was a virgin when I married but he wasn't. I don't mind having sex everyday but sometime he wants it twice a day when I just want to cuddle. Whenever I talk to him about him he just begins to strip me and I give in.

Answer 1

Dear it is normal. Don't follow the rubbish suggestions. Sex will decide your future life with him. Support him.

Remember if not you.. then somebody else. If you like it - its fine go ahead and say No.. else support and try to enjoy every bit of life. Try new positions and enjoy.

Everybody needs food. You can skip food once or twice. If not at home then at hotel. similarly either he has sex with you or he goes outside to satisfy his urge.

Do not let negative creep in his mind. This is only for your future. If you want him doing once - then you may try to be at your best at that time. eg. you may tell him - let's make love at ___ time- be prepared. Take bath, wear good lingerie, use good perfume, make your room light fragrant, tease and play, have foreplay etc etc. which will heighten your enjoyment. He would always strive to have this type of moments. Mould him as per your requirements & timings then. One more thing - A lady should act like a whore in bed for her husband - to control him as per her desires.

FINALLY - DO NOT FOLLOW THE NONSENSE ADVISES as given by others. They have spoiled their life and trying to increase their community. Just take care of your life.

Take care...

Answer 2

Well first off, you don't mention how long that you've been married. Lets assume that its just a few months. In this case, under normal circumstances, you can count on him wanting sex a little less each month until there is a happy medium. If you have been married for several years though, I would say that this man not only deeply loves his wife, but has an over hyper sex drive to match. Simply explain it to him the way that you have to us and let it be to him to make the first set of adjustments. By no means tell this man to look elsewhere for his sexual fulfilments. Even in jest as this most definately will lead to trouble in time whether he takes your advice or not. Telling him this will automatically make him feel as though you are growing tired of him and therefore aren't as sexually atracted to him any longer. I could say that you married him for better or worse so simply bite the bullet. But if he is needing as much sex as you say, I would say that either there are problems that need adressed with him by a qualified physician or he is trying awful hard to keep his wife happy. Not knowing how long that you have been married, it would be hard for me to say to enjoy it as most women are the ones who crave more also. I would simply set him down and explain things to him and see if he would be able to simmer it down a notch or two as you aren't able to keep up due to your work load. If this doesn't work, I would suggest a doctor. I wish you luck in this matter and hope litterally everything goes well.

Answer 3

It's normal for a newly married guy to want sex, but this is a serious issue here. He's not respecting your boundaries or your decisions. If you don't want sex, you shouldn't have to perform like a trained seal at his command. This really worries me, sweetie. If he can't take no for an answer, then how will he ever know to stop? No means no. Just because he's not actually raping you doesn't mean that the "no means no" rule shouldn't apply. You need to put your foot down. Besides, if you can't talk to him at all about this it doesn't bode well for your marraige.

I do have to say that I think you married way too young. You are still discovering yourself & I can guarantee that in 5 years (heck, 1 year) you will not be the same person you are now. I think that marrying this young may have been a mistake.

EDIT:

In response to one or two people below me, what I got upset about wasn't that he wanted sex all the time from this young lady, but that he wanted sex & if she were to say no he would just disrespect her opinion & pressure her into it anyway. Just because they are newly married doesn't give him the right to demand sex out of her all the time & just because she says no doesn't give him permission to go elsewhere for sex. Honey, don't listen to them. If he were to really start going elsewhere because you were not in the mood to have sex, then he's a dud.

This isn't about how much sex you should or shouldn't be getting this early in your marraige, or how best you should "please him". This is about you saying no & him respecting what you want. It doesn't matter if this is about sex or if this about you wanting to go out to eat at McDonald's. If you say no, then he should take your wishes into consideration. Just because you are married doesn't give him the rights to your body & that doesn't mean that you should have to sexually gratify him if you don't want to & that even means handjobs & whatnot. I'm not saying that you should become a prude or anything, but if you don't want to, don't. That's the #1 right that you have to your body. Don't ever let anyone think that they have more rights to you than yourself.

Answer 4

Well, I would say that he MAY settle down in a bit. But I would ask you these as well.

Isnt having regular sex one of the reasons that a man marries a woman?

From the biblical view, (which no one seems to consider or care about) once we marry, our bodies belong to one another and we are not to deprive one another except for an agreed upon amount of time, lest we may help the other to be tempted and then cheat. Keeping this in mind, you can also remind him that nothing in this passage says that this is limited to sex, so you have a right to expect help from one another too, such as cleaning and so forth. I mean, the body consists of arms, legs, etc., not just sex organs, so this could also help get him to assist you with things.

Have you ever had a bad orgasm? Even a little one is better then none, is it not?

Yes we want to be viewed as worth more then sex, but then again was not sex one of the things that was used to tempt and get the other person?

Sex is the strongest drive that a man has. You gals know it and use it to your advantage, then get upset about it all at the same time. Seems a bit ridiculous to me. From the view of some of us males, women seem to use sex as a carrot to entice us, then get upset when we eat the carrot.

You and he should both read my blog. It might give you both some things to think on and discuss.

Answer 5

My advise will be first go to a doctor and discuss the matter with him/her. As others also said it's natural that he is hungry for sex specially at the first year of the marriage.

But you can fulfill him with other ways like fore playing with. you know what I mean like rub and suck his pinase. You can control his quick act by thess things or may be let him *** while you suck. I do this alot to my husband specially when I'm having my monthly blood.

Other way is that you ask him to have sex at the most unexpected time, and if you are not one of those sexy girls you can improve your taste for sex by special diet (like eat more chocolate and bananas) or getting special peels for ladies (you can ask your doctor about them).

Try to make it romantic, turn on candles and put on sexy dresses at home. put more make up if he likes and act sexy, in this way you will satisfy him by seeing also. And believe me when you ask him to have sex with you before he do it, he will stop forcing you.

Just watch some sexy movies together not those violent ones but those romantic and sexy ones. Just act like this till his fire slowes down then you will feel free.

But don't forget to consult with a doctor at a session which both of you are present. Don't complain!!! Ask how you can improve and let the doctor explane to him how he can have sex with you without hurting you.

Have your monthly anti cancer test for sure.
These are all my personal experiences, this will help.

Always remember "WHAT EVER YOU RESIST WILL PRESIST" so don't complain, do not fight back, don't be sad but make it more joyfull and for God sake remember you loved him that's why you marry him so give him more love.

Answer 6

Just because you are married doesn't mean that he has the right to make you have sex or use you when he wants.

You should be intimate when you want to and when you feel right about it. If you want to cuddle then make it clear to him what cuddling means to *you* because men think of cuddling quite often as *a prelude to sex*.

Just make your signals a little more clear and your opinions louder, and he'll understand better.

Answer 7

Get used to it. Men ALWAYS want sex. If it were me, I would TRY to explain your needs to him, I am sure that he won't listen or hear them, but try. Maybe years down the road, it will click and he will understand. Until then, maybe you should not compromise so much with them. Show him that you have the power and he doesn't. Good Luck and Congrads on your new marriage.

Answer 8

dont worry it will end soon

i was married at 20 and my husband wanted it liek all the time no we are lucking to have it once a week we have been married for just over 12 mouths now

Answer 9

This will come to an end, but before it does try make sure you got married for the wright reason.

Answer 10

I feel so sorry for you. Since your husband is just so incredibly selfish, and takes advantage of you over and over regardless of your pain, maybe you need to get a little tough and set him down like a little child and look directly in his eyes and tell him NO in a firm voice.