Why People seemed not progressing despite many good dreams they wanna be? How sense of reality comes to play.?

Question

...when must we start laying the ideal visions of our dream life? How do we support it...who should know and who should must back us up to lay strongly the foundations of our dreams...how do we reconcile reality with our ideal dreams...coping up a part of being real? Updating when must we support our realistic goals? Can you share with definitive step by step ways to achieve....

To all USERS out there, I CHALLENGE YOU, IS THIS QUESTION TOO HARD FOR YOU ? AM I RIGHT TO THINK AS I AM STARTING TO FEEL THIS IS TOO HARD FOR YOU, SINCE I WAS SEVEN YEARS OLD...I WAS DREAMING TO BE ABLE TO GET OUT OF MY BIRTH PLACE 'COZ EVERY TIME I SEE AROUND FROM MORNING TO DUSK ...I SEE NO PROGRESS ...BUT ALL SIGHTS OF POVERTY ...& IDLENESS...ALMOST 70% OF THE NEIGHBORHOOD ...ARE WASTING PRECIOUS TIME CONTENTED AND RESIGNED TO THEIR CHOSEN FATE OF DOWNWARD LIFE SITUATION...MOST HAVE NO EAGERNESS TO STUDY DESPITE AVAILABLE FREE ELEMENTARY AND SECONDARY EDUCATION...I SEE NO DREAMS & AMBITION OR VISION OF BETTER LIFE MUST WANT TO INTERPLAY...I TRIED MY LUCK AND NOW I KNOW HOW TO GET THROUGH...I MADE IT & I PITY THOSE WHO ARE COWARD, CHICKEN TO ACCEPT CHALLENGES IN LIFE & AFRAID TO KNOW & UNMASK THEIR INNER SELF FOR OTHERS TO LEARN FROM OUR REAL EXPERIENCES WHETHER WE SUCCEEDED OR WE FAILED, THE VALUES OF IT...WE WANT TO SHARE FOR OTHERS TO PICK UP FOR GOOD...SHARE!!!

Answer 1

Set a goal, make it a realistic goal, one that you can obtain. Complete that goal. Then set another goal and do the same again. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

Do not set impossible goals, to achieve your ultimate goal you will have to take one step at a time. Take each step a little larger and a little longer and little harder to complete until it becomes easier and easier to succeed. Like learning to walk. first we hold on to something and balance until we stick one foot out and let go. Then two steps, then more steps, oops! we fall, we get back up again and soon we are running.

It's like that. Just don't let someone else rob you of your dreams. And don't rob yourself of those dreams, don't give up.

Answer 2

If at first you dont succeed try, try and try again.The march of an army begins with the first step and faint heart never won fair lady There is no bridge to far not even if you are facing a skyscraper of a problem

Answer 3

Sometimes as humans we fear success as much as we fear failure. We get stuck. We make excuses. We change our goals.....we shorten our dreams. We explain away our initial dreams so that we don't feel that we have failed. We justify our letting go of our initial dream but working on a new dream.

Reality bites. or so "they" say. Who are they? We are they.
The foundations of our dreams start sometimes in childhood.
The foundation gets our young selves and grows until we make the choice or while in college finally pushing one self to choose a dream.

My Dream came easy for me. At the age of 3 my mother told me that I pulled around my red wagon with bandaids & Bactine. I tended and nutured. I knew I had to be a nurse.
It never entered my mind that I could be a doctor.

Dream Foundation:
Inate interest in something
The acting out of that interest when a child
The year we realize we have to decied what we want to be when (or if) haha we grow up.
Then we find the best way to get to our dream.....whether it be education; trade school, or just start working. And for some wander never knowing how to catch their dreams because of learning disabilities or mental Illness etc.
We choose what we need to do to get to our goal.
We Save money, work, apply to colleges, we move out of our parents. We think we understand life & love. We misbehave, or over project our dreams.
Once we have been accepted to the school. we get disappointments or being turned down by colleges or some get what they want. too easy, too soon and they blow it because everything came so easy that they miss out on their dreams & if fortunate enough redirect themselves.

Personally at this point, I was sure that the two colleges I had applied to would accept me. One was a hospital program. Another a college program to become an RN. I got turned down at both places. I spent two years just going to college. Spinning my wheels, yet getting some classes I needed to take and get out of the way. I then applied to a Junior College Nursing School. I was told that there were 500 applicants and just thirty positions in the class. They told me it could take years to get in to an RN school. It was time to rethink my plan. I realized that LVN's did almost as much as an RN. My interview went well, until they said that they weren't sure they would accept me becasue there were others who had some nurses aid experience or were older than myself or had higher grades. There was a long list of reasons.
I didn't exactually beg, but I was conviencing that I was born to be a nurse and asked them to please consider me as one of their students. I told them about my little red wagon. Etc.

When I got the letter acceptence I was thrilled. I had some learing disabilities to over come. I was poor at math & numbers, But I passed Chemisty & other classed I think did I could possibably complete. I was determined. Yet......I had lowered my dream, or more like readjusted my dreams.
Then I got married and all my dreams were set aside to be wife & mother. I lived my X's version of life.To me that was reality.....marry, have babies, become content housewife, grandma....grow old ........and so on. I had lost my dreams.
There is reality that limits my new dreams. My second list of dreams. SEcond chance on being wiser and make better choices.

My foundation of what I thought was my foundation. It was the world that I was in version of life. This is not blame, it is to explain. It took me years to realize that I wasn't close to being me anymore. I divorced and vowed to never live someone elses version of life.

I got myself back. I am not a young woman anymore. I am now single and my kids are grown and I have a handful of grandchildren.

I have new dreams. I know the reality that I can't reach those dreams unless I am in motion. My dreams won't come to me.
Now at age 57 I am an artist and I write. I have published once. I have shown my photography in two different places.
I have the possibility of selling my creation of greeting cards. I just might be a success. The most important thing is that I am walking MY path. I am working on MY dreams. I am not looking for anything but me to validate me. I understand reality and I understand that dreams can come true.

It is important for us to be true to ourselves.
Gosh, I could write pages and pages on this.
*smile*

Answer 4

i love questions that babble on and make no sense.