i am in a mess at the moment and am considering leaving my boyfriend to go to australia for a new life. has anyone ever started their life again abroad?
2007-10-13 23:38:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
sorry-posted in wrong category,
2007-10-13 23:42:03 · update #1
thank you c wife-i live in a different country to my family at the moment but am only 1and half hours away on a plane. thankyou very much for your advice
2007-10-13 23:47:12 · update #2
There is nothing wrong in emigrating to another country, yes, you can have a wonderful life abroad. But sorry, you don't sound like you want to do that. I'd say you want to run away, you want to escape from everyone and everything and that is not a good enough reason to emigrate. At least not yet. Give it 6 months and try and sort out your 'mess' first. Emigrating to escape a problem could make you feel even more isolated and lonely.
2007-10-14 04:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by threepenny53 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 16, left all my family and friends behind, and moved to live and work in Holland and I stayed for over 3 years. The experience was amazing and I have such happy memories from my time spent there. However of course it wasn’t easy to leave my family and friends and I did miss them terribly. Once I started working and meeting new people that helped immensely to curb the home sick feeling.
Returned to the Uk when I was 20 and moved another 13 times, (yup itchy feet I guess )I finally settled back in my home town and stayed there until I was 30. Had another big move just over a year ago and again left behind my family and friends. My advice to you would be go for it as you only have one life and if it doesn’t work out you can always return home.
The experiences I have had over the years have been second to none and if I had my time all over again I would do the same.
2007-10-13 23:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by scorpionbabe32 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I haven't but I do know someone who went to Australia having done the same and is still there 10 years later. All I would say to you is don't underestimate having friends and family at close call. We often take for granted being able to jump on a bus or into your car and meet up with a friend for a coffee and chat - Australia is a long way away and people are unlikely to visit you there - it's just too far and expensive for most people. Try sorting your problems out first, leave your boyfriend if that is what you want. Only make a decision like moving to another country when you are strong and have a clear mind.
2007-10-13 23:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yep..I left a control freak and took my daughter who was then 4 to live in Spain. It was realy tough and we had nothing and knew no one but it did work out and I am now very happy with all I could want living on the med, The trouble with these things is the more the think about it the more reasons you find not to do it. Don't think just do :)
2007-10-14 05:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relocation is a very tough thing to do and it takes a number of months even years before you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is never advisable to use reloaction to run away, it will haunt you and you have a high chance of failure and then you are stuck a longway away and possibly even more miserable than you are now. I have done several relocations, always with my family and financial support and services of my company - and it still hurts! There is a lot of emotional angst when you move and it is very stressful.
I urge you to take a close look at your motives and see if they can be resolved in a less drastic way than running!
2007-10-13 23:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by dim.bugger 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have. I've travelled extensively. When I was in my mid-twenties I lived in Cyprus for a year, then Tokyo for 2, then Hong Kong for 3. Each time was like starting anew. Good luck xxxxx
I'm now in Slovakia, living with my boyfriend but away from the rest of my family. It can be very isolating at times. Perhaps you could go on vacation there first to see what you are letting yourself in for.
2007-10-13 23:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ginny Jin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A very good friend, a little blond, very smart and agile, works all the time. Her hubby of 21 years came home one day and said "honey, I don't love you anymore, I want a divorce" she was so taken aback and in a void, she moved into a rental they had vacated and started living on her own.
It totally ruined her life, she's been through four relationships, two marriages. He Left and was never seen again in this area.
2007-10-14 00:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not to go that far but 5 years ago I left my job and all my friends in Cambridge for a new job in London. I didn't know anyone and I survived and am now very happy.
2007-10-14 05:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And it hasn't been easy. The younger you are the better. But it isn't only your boyfriend you will be leaving behind - it is the rest of your family. And that can be hard.
Since I've come to the UK I've missed my father's illness, his death and his funeral. My mother's remarriage, the death of her new husband and his funeral. My mother is now on her own, after she fell out with my older brother - she relief heavily on him for his support.. My youngest brother sponges off her. She's okay, but getting older. And it worries me so much I can see myself returning to take care of her. Which is bizarre, as one of the reasons I left was because of our bad relationship!
Australia sounds fantastic, but it is a very long way away.
2007-10-13 23:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My brother and his wife, 2 children, left us all to make a new life in New Zealand and has never looked back. They are in their 3rd year and love it. Sometimes we get the urge to do so as there doesn't seem to be anything left for us in this country any more.
2007-10-13 23:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by kololi_2 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋