Hardest Years of Your Marriage?

Question

For those of you who have been married for a while, what were the hardest years of your marriage. And how did you get past that?

Answer 1

They say the hardest years of a marriage are the first 7. If you can get past those then you should be able to work out almost anything. By the 7th year you should know if you can continue with that person. There will always be problem times in a marriage but if you love that person and visa versa you can work things out

Answer 2

The first year is the hardest. This is when you really get to know one another and at times question your choice of partners. The second year is a little less hard and continues up to about the seventh year. Most divorces happen around the seventh year.

Some countries now only have seven year marriages. At the end of seven years a couple is no longer married. At that time they can remarry for another 7 years, or just live together or walk a way.

Personally, I think governments of all levels should stay out of marriages all together and not issue "government" marriage licenses. If a couple wants to marry let the Church issue licenses or let the couple live together with all the privileges of taxable dependents, medical care, etc for as long as they wish to be together and be allowed to do so with as many partners as is desired and can support.

Answer 3

We've been married over 23 years. There have been difficult times when the children are little and again teenagers, I've found the hardest times are when either of you is really busy and less effort gets put into the marriage.
You both need to put more into a marriage than you take out, the excess feeds the marriage. Give more than you take!!

Answer 4

I would say the first year or two were the hardest so far. I just had my three year anniversary and the past 18 months or so have been pretty great! I think for the first year or so you are still adjusting to living with a new person and learning all their bad habits. I don't really know how I got thru it. I just kept trucking determined not to give up. My parents have been divorced multiple times and I don't want to be like them. I want to have a long succesful marriage. I hope it gets easier for you hun....Good Luck!

Answer 5

I've been married a month shy of 9 years. I must say that the whole nine have been trials and tribulations. When in the past I was so insecure and come to realize I had nothing to be insecure about until our tour over sea's. Japan has been my man's paradise. Will we get past the deception? Only time will tell. I must say a marriage is like a bank...What you put in is only what you can take out. Keep open lines of communication. Best of luck to you

Answer 6

The first 2 years were the hardest...Marriage counseling...Married 11 years and still going strong.....

Answer 7

Been married for 11 years. The first year after a child was born, the time he had almost started an affair, the year he had cancer, when he was off work because of illness. We got through them because we took our vows until death do us part. We never use the D word, which is Divorce. We are together for the long hall. Our love is stronger and we are better friends because of all we have been through. It only gets better with time and going through life together.

Answer 8

In fact it's all up to you I know couple who broke up at the wedding night. but if both parties are flexible enough and can undrestand that people are different from eachother and they have to accept their spouse as they are and don't expect them to change then nothing will be difficult.

Ofcourse you need to know you spouse very well before marring him/her. But accept this fact "There are not any people that think and act in the same way even twins are different".
By accepting this from both parties you will be ready to be flexible and some times sacrifice for you life and for you love. but both should be doing this.

I'm married for 2 years and I knew my husband only for 3 months before my marriage. But we both know each others limitation and these 2 years were like heaven. In fact we never enjoyed like we were enjoying during this time.

It wasn't difficult at all.

Answer 9

After being married for 15 years...

The hardest years for me were when my dad took his own life and my husband was not supportive and expected me to continue keeping up with the chores. He would withhold affection to try and blackmail me into keeping up when really I just needed time to grieve!

How did we get through it? We didn't. I left him and it was very painful but I'm healther today than I ever remember being.

Answer 10

Our first year of marriage was not very difficult, but it definitely was not easy; all emergency mode. We had to learn to adjust to each other's personality and compromised on certain things. Plus we had to learn to communicate with each. Check out this page, http://ourpeacefulfamily.com/first-year-of-marriage-advice-tips/ for great tips to help you in your marriage.