Alcohol to overcome nervousness?

Question

I am 16, and find it quite hard to relax and enjoy myself.
Im going a prom in a week or so and if i drink alcohol it will make me feel more confident and comfortable to dance and chat to people.
However i do not want to resort to this each time or i will become an alcoholic!
Any ideas pleaaaase?! Theres a boy there that I really like but Im scared he will think I'm boring!

Answer 1

You already know the answer. The bad news is not taking the easy way out and standing on your own two feet can be hard and pretty scary. The good news is the more you do it the stronger you become. After time you build an inner strength that you carry with you at all times. That is something that could never be bottled so stop looking for courage in one.

Answer 2

I must tell you that's what I used to do when I was young.

I would drink to overcome my nervousness and shyness so that I could socialize at a party.

It's a lie to say that it doesn't work - it does work, but it's not a good solution.

It's true that perhaps you could become an alcoholic if you have to rely on alcohol to help you through life situations. I too was afraid of that.

The main point that I want to make is that alcohol doesn't really solve the problem - because it's a temporary solution - it doesn't change the real you. It's a false sense of well-being -it's artificial. What you need is the real thing - a sense of self-confidence based on reality - it's the hard way to go, but it's the only way.

As far as the boy you like, don't worry about being boring - try to show an interest in what his interests are (be a good listener), smile and also tell him about your interests. Believe me, you are not boring - you are just shy - the shy can be quite interesting and deep people (I know because I am shy too).

Good luck!

Answer 3

As im sure you know, alcohol is funny - it starts as a happiness device, then becomes a depressant.

However, i think that it you limit what you drink it will be okay. One or two glasses may not make you addicted (assuming you havent had an alcohol problem before, if you have STAY AWAY) provided you remember it is only for this occasion. After all, this is prom: you should have fun. But that said you can always feel the fear in the future. Chances are you could get through prom without booze.

Although remember: if u are drunk, the guy will probably find you less interesting than when sobre, first impressions are hard to re-make.

Basically its up to you, but if you want some alcohol you will probably be fine. Just watch how much you drink, and dont get drunk.

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Answer 4

alcohol also overcomes reason -

like

"Should I pull out in front of that other car - I think I could make it?"

We just had a 17 year old try that with a 18 wheel semi doing 60 miles an hour.

He will not have to overcome any more nervousness. Neither will his 16 year old girlfriend.

You will not be boring - you will be charming - BE YOURSELF -

U R Beautiful !!!!!

all the best

Answer 5

You stating that you need alcohol to overcome nervousness is an excuse and an attempt to justify having alcohol to yourself.

You can learn other ways to overcome and control nervousness. To think that alcohol is a cure of something is just hiding from reality.

Answer 6

Very intresting question! As alcohol is a relaxant it does sound like a very good solution to your problem! - however a very wise decision not to become dependent on it
(Give yourself a pat on the back)

Like most things that make you nervous, familiarity is the key.
If you are nervous making speeches you practice in the mirror or to close friends to get the nerve up. I suggest that you go out into public situations much like a prom and get loose. lol
Even dancing so you make others nervous will give you a confidence boost. - I cant tell you how many times that girls have made me nervous the way they dance!

Maybe take a couple of girlfriends out and go meet and talk with guys. Anything that you think will ease your discomfort.
With regards to the boy, i know this will sound like a cliche but - be yourself. Everyone in the world has interesting qualities and you don't sound boring to me.
Finally, its a prom - go out enjoy yourself! You may be nervous about how you look, but so is everyone else! I wish you all the best

Answer 7

You have to define what you're going to do at the prom.

Sit back and role play the evening through your head.

Find out how you would lke the evening to progress.
Do this in your mind during the evening, when you're by yourself.

Whatever your desires are, I want you to play the evening video in your head every day before the prom.

The more clear the evening becomes in your head before the prom, the more relaxed you will be when you get there.

Those who expect spontaneous results are those who get stuck up against the wall at the back of the prom gym, andd look like weak, shy and unsociable.

If you can role play the evening coninuoously during the following days, you won't need alcaholo.
As a matter of fact, the alcahol will destroy what your mind had carrefuly planned to happen.


JES

Answer 8

At 16 you should be able to enjoy yourself without alcohol. Just be yourself. Keep breathing and smile. Alcohol is ok but don't rely on it - it will not make you be more confident - it may make you look really stupid - all it takes is one drink too many.If the boy thinks you are boring because you don't drink he is not worth it. Find someone who likes you for who and what you are. Good luck and stay sober but enjoy the prom.

Answer 9

It's perfectly natural to worry that someone will find you boring even though that's probably not true. I can tell you right now, that if you refrain from drinking for the rest of your life, you will have one less big problem to deal with. Alcohol is just so destuctive in many ways. Look it up.

Answer 10

Better to be boring than act like an idiot. Sometimes if people drink to overcome nervousness it is easy to get carried away and drink too much.