Should i send ex this bday gift?
it has been a few wks since he officially broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... should i send a book da vinci code he always wanted to read (ordered on amazon for dirt cheap), and a plain card that just says happy bday... i won't wrap the present up, just send it in plain manila envelope. of course, i'm not gonna lie, i would at least hope he will say thank you, but even if he doesn't, i would feel i have done my part and, just as a nice way for me to end this chapter in my life and move on.
I took the break up badly and I did ask him back before but he said he wants to be single, feels stress-free, tell me to not have hope, find another man. i haven't called him in a couple of weeks and don't plan to.
If you had to put your money on the possibility of him calling back or even think about getting back, would it more likely to happen if i didn't send him gift or card on his bday OR if i do send him gift on his bday? Please answer this
2007-10-13 22:14:45 · 13 answers · asked by Svetlana Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone. He said good-bye. He is not coming back. Sorry.
2007-10-13 22:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you purchase it before the break up? If so, then I say send it. If you purchased it after ... well ... I'm still trying to figure out why you did that. Today is my ex's birthday. I sent him a simple text message. We broke up four years ago, and I have since married someone else. He responded with an "I will always love you." ... Whether or not you get the same response, I can't tell you. My situation is far different. My ex will be the first to admit he has never gotten over me. If you really make the effort, then sure ... send it ... If you get a response, go from there. If you don't, then it's time to move on.
2007-10-13 22:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship where after we broke up I still really liked him and didn't want to let it go, I went all out doing him favours and tried to help him out, but even though he pretended to, he pretty much hardly cared. Don't do it sweetie. It's not worth it.. I know now you're probably sick to DEATH of people telling you that "he's not worth it" or that you just have to let it go, but it's so true hun. The best best thing to do at the moment is have me time - Why not buy a present for yourself for being strong after a tough breakup? Hang with your friends, even though I know you probably won't feel like it. If you have to do ANYTHING for this guy, send a text that just says "Happy Birthday" or something, no "love" no "xoxoxo", just something short with no emotions attached. Then go on a boy hunt! If this guy doesn't want you - screw him! Find another hotter, nicer, more amazing guy who will appreciate you and never want to leave your side! There is someone out there who will be better, and I assure you that you will feel a lot better if you just carry on moving on and detaching yourself while you can. I know I look back in shame at how I pretty much belittled myself to please a guy.. Don't make the same mistake! Read "It's called a breakup 'cause it's broken".. GREAT book. Made me almost want to have someone to break up with! (Not really haha.. It's just really empowering.) Good luck with it all xx
2016-05-22 08:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by gladis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to send it, send it, but dont expect a thank you or a call, doesnt mean he wont do it, just dont expect it. It will all depend on what kind of man he is, if he's moved on already with someone else, and if the break up was pleasant or not on whether he will respond back so with out knowing him personally i wouldnt be able to bet either way with out knowing his character. But dont anticipate a call , that way if it happens ur pleasantly surpised, and if it doesnt your not heart broken yet again.
2007-10-17 21:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has made it very clear that he has moved on. You should too, screw him. I would not bet on him calling with or with out the book. It seems like the man is finished with the relationship period.
You also should enjoy the single life for a minute. Learn yourself again. Girl, do NOT send him that book. Return it if you can or just trash it and go buy yourself something nice.
2007-10-13 22:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, if this is meant to show your kindness again but not he being appreciative, then forget it.What is your intention anyway, to win him back? I suppose your time is up with him. Leave a space for yourself and him now,just try to erase the memories, ang giving that gift will again trigger that "still-burning" feelings of yours and may expect.So leave it and move on.He is not the only fish in the sea..there are better and more yummy..jejejeje
2007-10-13 22:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad break-up - just a few weeks ago!!! And he's telling you he wants to be single and that you should move on and find someone else - I would have to say no - do not send it. Instead go do something nice for YOURSELF!
2007-10-14 01:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by malibustacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send a gift. Marking another person's birthday is an intimacy of sorts. It implies a relationship which your ex has clearly indicated he no longer wants.
2007-10-13 22:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how many times you ask it, our answers will be the same. Don't do it. Grow up. Stop trying to manipulate a desired response out of the poor guy. Leave him alone. He's gone. He belongs to another. Ect... ect...
2007-10-13 22:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont send a gift. u two are ex's for a reason, it didnt work out. so move on and let go of the past.
2007-10-14 00:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by lirpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may consider a greeting card, that will convince you that you have done your part.
But there is a word of warning, please dont expect anything in back.
Dont think too much abour call back etc, be realistic. Move on to your life, find other friend/mate.
2007-10-13 23:36:34 · answer #11 · answered by shiava02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋