my freind is procesing divorce case,he is having one kid also,divorce cases reason is his wife is having affair with his freind,my freind is sensible charactor he explained her a lot but she is not agree with this, she wants to marry with that charactor,he is getting proper divorce yet, myself is widow,my age is 28,my releationship has started after after 2 years from husbands death, i have 2 yonger sisters & yonger brother & mother we all working ,but my both yonger sis.has not married I have taken their responbilities, whatever i am doing is correct or wrong should marry with this my freind or should wait for his divorce or any other option
2007-10-13 22:07:02 · 11 answers · asked by Pratibha R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are having affair with this man, his wife is having affair with some other man. Now his wife wants to continue her affair even after his explanation so he purposes a divorce. Best course in such case is divorce by mutual consent between your friend & his wife. That is the easiest & shortest way out as it can be settled anytime between six months & a year. After he obtains divorce from his wife, you both can marry legally. In the mean time you both can wait, remain just good friends & once this matrimonial litigation is over there should not be anything against you marrying him & it won't affect the future of your younger sister. This the best & decent way out for your affairs with this man.
2007-10-13 23:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Its not advisable to go it. The men if having up and downs and after divorce he will need some time to heal probably a year. Here I see this picture. His wife was cheating on him while he was cheating on his wife with you. so in either either way whatever he is doing will eventually be done to you either you agree with me or not, He is not a straight forward person and after divorce, his wife will always be in his memory which would affect you.At the same time its not a guarantee that he will accept another marriage. So if you care about him, take things slow, day by day and see our things unfold. Do not rush into marriage before you put all marriage option on the table and are all met fully. Its risky and you are the one to end up hurt.
2007-10-14 05:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may like this person, you are young and you do have your own needs of companionship and care. He was in relationship with you when he was still married to his wife. You were his sympathizer hence you gave your shoulder and he used it. This sympathy has taken a serious turn into a serious relationship. It is important to think on these terms. How true is it that his wife really had an affair, even if she had why did she choose another man to this guy, is there a need in this man to be right? And since you validated this in him, is he choosing you? He had a relationship with you while his marriage was intact, does it say something about him? If this is ok for him then its going to be ok for him again when you are married.
Before you enter into this relationship find out what was not ok for him with his wife? What was it that he did not like in her, and why did his wife choose another man? I am not saying this man is not good, but there are a lot of things to take into consideration before you make a choice, it is important to know if this is thekind of man you want to live with for ever.
Besides what is right for you is for you to decide. You have the responsibility of your whole family your plate is full, and now you have him and his child, later you will have your own children, this is going to be too much for your to handle, if you want to marry this man for financial support then may be you are doing something worng, a person marrying someone to fulfil your needs is really not love, it can be an emotional drain. New relationships bring along with it new challenges. a family that is used to having a lot of attention from you will have a problem dividing your attention. He will eventaully bring his own feelings of the past on to you, he needs to heal and reconnect with himself and find out what he wants, he may have issues of trust and he needs to work on it.
good luck
2007-10-14 09:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Divorce = No marriage.
Find another guy or wait for the divorce. If you get involved with a married person, your rights will be in jeopardy.
2007-10-14 18:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) What does marriage mean to you?
2) Are you looking forward to depend on this man?
3) Are you thinking taht your worries in life will become less?
4) Isnt it possible that your worries will become more.
5) Wait till he gets divorce.
6) Be sure taht he loves you.
2007-10-16 03:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for some time,until his divorce ends.Take things slowly.After divorce,he may be stressed up & it will take time to settle down so be his friend for the time being.That is what he is needed,at present,a friend to support him in his difficult time & you can be his good friend.If you immediately propose him marriage then its likely that he will turn down & you may get hurt.So wait.
2007-10-14 06:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by coolblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in india; u cann`t marry unless he divorce her which take no tless than 7 years for a man; i his wife deny to harass him.and your marriage is null and void and he can be charged with adultry and force him to pay huge sum of alimony.thats india.
by the way how your husband died...? and he is divorcing not becaue of you....?
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2007-10-14 06:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by 498A_Crusader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till your man gets a divorce....and then go ahead with the marriage if your man is ready to shoulder your responsibilities
2007-10-14 06:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for divorce of ur friend
thereafter start a new life with him.
2007-10-14 05:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by arun k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to wait for his divorce and secondly after fixing ur sis marriages then proceeding would be nice ,
2007-10-15 03:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋