mother-in-law problems?

Question

well everytime my wife gets mad at me and her mother comes over she trys to get her mother against me by telling her the problems that we are having and not telling her the whole truth or tell me one thing and then when she comes over telling her something else i like her mother she's a very sweet lady but then theres times she's telling me of because she hadn't heard the true story what do i do when this happens

Answer 1

What can you do? Your best bet would be to ignore her. To react only gives her power.

Answer 2

Sounds like you get along pretty well with your mother-in-law. Ask your wife not to involve her mother in every little dispute, or she may end up not liking you at all, and this ultimetly, will not make things easy for your wife. When your wife 'gets over' whatever has made her mad, she will forgive and forget. Mother-in-law might not find it quite so easy. Try and maintain a good relationship with mother-in-law, no matter what. Show your wife these answers. When my daughters complain about their husbands, I want to kill them. I then have to ask myself how I would react, if it was my daughter-in-law complaining about my son. I'm sure I'd see it just a little bit differently. Its quite hard being a mother-in-law actually.

Answer 3

Your problem with your mother-in-law is your wife. Your wife needs to confront issues with you rather than running off to tell her Mommy when there is a problem or a difficult situation. Your mother-in-law's only problem is not telling her daughter to please talk to you about issues in your marriage. You can respectfully address the situation with your wife. You can also model the correct behavior by being very sure you only speak of her respectfully with others and that you are not sharing private marital issues with others outside the marriage. Worry less about your reputation, and put more time into actually dealing with your wife's behavior.

Answer 4

Perhaps you should sit your wife and her mother down and have a serious talk with them. Explain to the two ladies that marital problems exist and it's okay to be upset. However, it's not okay for your wife to be doing what she's been doing. It's also not okay for her mother to tell you off when she doesn't know the whole story.

Answer 5

Your wife has lots of maturing to do!.one of the biggest problems in marriages are meddling In-laws,and your wife invited them to voice her opinion,and bad mouthing your marital and personal issues.I agree with you, she very wrong and soon enough its going to bit her in the ***!!!well you could neither sit her down face to face and let her knows this bothers you and you want her to stop.And remind her you too have a mother and would like me to reports all your issues and disagreement you have?or beat her to the punch a day for lunch or when you have time call your mother-in law..greet her ,and politely ask what your wife been complaining about and you would like the chance to listen to your side,and if has any concerns ,questions,or problems to confront you and even both of you,..since you have nothing to hide and if your mother in law comes to concogize what her daughter all lies,gossiper and bull shittier then its all worth it.Your in-laws can be your friend and support group when you least except it.good luck.

Answer 6

Get your wife to grow up and act like an adult. She needs to work things out with you and run to mommy later. It is an issue with your wife, not the mother-in-law. Maybe you can talk to the mother-in-law and see if she'd be on board with telling her daughter it is your two's problem and to leave her out of it.

Answer 7

Lets make fun if not funny. Perhaps I will call my dad to deal with my mother in laws so as to give me time to deal with my wife. I bet next time if she tell her mother, she would know that my dad would be there to deal with her mother while I deal with her. This junk will come to a stop

Answer 8

as a general rule, a man should never hit a woman.
every rule has a acception.
the most ovious acception to this rule is if a woman threatens the life of your children or your self, how many other acceptions can you think of??

I have also heard it said that if a woman acts like something other than a woman she is no longer a woman and not coverd by the above rule.

your hands may be tied, but the knot is not as tight as most would think

Answer 9

First of all get closer to your wife and solve you problems before she have a chace to go to her mother. In fact try some times be flexible and go to the lower step, sometimes let her feel she is the winner, ofcourse for not important things.

I you like you mother in Law get closer to her also and act like she is your own mother may be you like to call here some times and have a chat with here. Get a place in her heart, get some advise from here but not in your realations. Ask here what your wife will like most to receive as a gift but give here choices. Show her that you care about her daughter. When you go visit her buy her some flowers or sometimes a small gift and ask your wife what should you buy for her.

This will shows both to your wife and your mother in law that you care about them. Pluse by this gentel and undirect acts let her undrestand that she shouldn't get in to your personal life.

You don't need to fight or get upset. But act smartly and spent a little money on them so you will have them both. Belive me ladies love gifts.

Be gentel to you wife and attract her to yourself instead of leaving her alone to go to her parrents for help. Don't let her feel helpless, so she won't seeks for help.

Let be right sometimes, and for other time try not to act harshly. If you or her are angry at that time just tell her will talk about it later may be after 1 hour, but talk about it just don't pass it or else she will complaine again to her mother. You solve it before she shout it to the world.

May be she is going to her family because she feel you don't care for her.

Think more before you say any thing to her. And calm down.

Talk in the way like she is right but solve the problem. Never hesitate to say "I'M SORRY". Believe me just one word can change every thing.

THIS IS NOT YOU MOTHER IN LAW'S PROBLEM, THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM, SO SOLVE IT YOURSELF BEFORE SHE CAN HEAR ABOUT IT.

Answer 10

Tell your wife to be a woman and deal with the problems herself and to stop being a pu$$y and tell the old hag to stay out of your marriage. If that doen't work divorce the *****....

Answer 11

Tell your wife to stop telling her mother your marital problems, it is for you two to sort out not her mother.