I just learned that my friend from high school died 3 weeks ago along with her son and sister in law in a car accident. I haven't spoken to this friend since we graduated high school over 4 years ago.
I didn't even know she was married and had kids. We were pretty close in high school. We only lost contact because she went to the community college and I went to the University.
How am I suppose to mourn? I've been up most of the night looking at old year book photos and crying over them.
2007-10-13 20:54:51 · 8 answers · asked by christigmc 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I missed her funeral too. I found out after the funeral.
2007-10-13 20:59:23 · update #1
Thing is her family didn't know me. Nor did my family know her. The only thing that my family knows about her is that during senior prom she and I switched dates and one classmate pretended a love triangle was happening.
2007-10-13 21:06:59 · update #2
I think you are already doing it. you're taking the time to remember. maybe someday you will be ready to go to her grave to say goodbye but for now you just have to do what's best with you. there is no right or wrong way to mourn the death of someone close to you.
2007-10-13 21:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how you mourn. What ever feels right to you. For a while it is going to be weird, you might want to call them and catch up, butthen realize you can't. Mourning is different for everyone sometimes it takes a long period of time other times it doesn't its all about what makes ou comfortable. Although I am not th emost religious person I felt comfort recently when a good friend died by lighting a candle and saying a prayer for him. Do what feels right, but remember there isn't anything you could have done differently.
2007-10-13 20:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mourning classes for many human beings differs and because it became into your appropriate chum of 28 years that gave up the ghost, your spouse could be a heck of so plenty further records. Get grief counseling or locate different pals you had in uncomplicated to talk issues with because your spouse does not look to comprehend the region.
2016-10-09 04:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've made a good start by looking at the photos. Crying is only natural - when we are young we forget that we aren't immortal and often put off catching up with people as we think they'll always be there.
Maybe you can give her family a call and go and visit them and talk to them. You might be surprised to find that they'll need a fresh face to visit them and you would be welcome. Don't be frightened of talking about your feelings of loss - darting around the subject won't be good for either of you.
Good luck and take care.
2007-10-13 21:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u don need 2 know someone 2 mourn for him. in ne case she was ur fren at sum time. jus go 2 her family n mos importantly her kids n spend time wid dem n console dem all. even if a stranger drops in 2 b wid dem at dis time of grief dey wont mind . n come on no1 gives a damn 2 petty things like proms or high school trivial things. so jus GO n spend time wid her family.coz if u wont go , u may regret it all thru ur life.
2007-10-13 23:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by andromeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww ...
Ok, I suggest you contact the family, mabey they have a message now and mabey you can catch up on how your friend was doing and get a load off your shoulders.
2007-10-13 21:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by pop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not an official way to mourn. u shouldnt dwell on the past either btw. just think of it that shes in a better place now and move on.
2007-10-13 20:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. Did you try to get in contact with her family?
2007-10-13 20:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋