My daughter called me at work crying because my step dad had his new girlfriend at the house. My mother has only been dead 3 weeks. I left work in order to get my girls. When asked what was wrong. I told my dad that I was not ready for my kids to be involved with his new girlfriend. Was I wrong? Both of my kids are very upset with him.
2007-10-13 20:28:37 · 11 answers · asked by tyte31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
And to really put salt in an open wound. I took my girls (ages 5 &12) to the movies tonight to try clear their minds a little. He had the nerves to be there at the movies with his new girlfriend. Oh yea he is a preacher!!!
2007-10-13 20:54:48 · update #1
I don't think that you were wrong. It is disrespectful. He could at least see her in private for a while. He should think of other peoples feelings. Why does he already have a girlfriend? He does not sound like a nice guy. Sorry about your mom.
2007-10-13 20:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is more of a case for the courts to decide. Paternity should be established, if it hasn't been already. From then they decide who has main custody, what visitation rules are, and who pays who child support. If they don't have orders from the courts on any of this, then it's just he wants - she wants, with nothing to back it up. If she has some evidence that they are mistreating the daughter, then that should be brought to the court's attention. If she doesn't then it's just here say and unfortunately it's probably not going to carry a lot of weight in the decision making process. Since nothing is on paper yet, she technically doesn't have to let him have visitation, especially if he's not on the birth certificate. I definitely see this leading to courts though if she has a problem with what's going on or if he doesn't get to see his daughter anymore.
2016-05-22 08:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to be upset with him. It takes two years to grieve for any type of loss. Two years to get through a divorce, a death, etc. I am sorry to hear about your mom, time does take care of the pain. Let him know, it will be his choice to be in your life now or not. Then just give it time... there is no reason you can't have some type of contact with just him,,, unless that just hurts you too much. Take care of you! It is the only thing you really have control of. (And your children of course, take care of them too. Keeping them out of that confusion is only good in my view).
2007-10-13 20:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ketchi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right. Three weeks... that's a little soon for a new girlfriend and you haven't had time to grieve her properly. I'm sorry about your mother. You did the right thing.
2007-10-13 20:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by LouLouEm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, you are right. No kids will be upset if a dad did that ridiculous thing. Especially that your mother died only 3 weeks ago! That is a..... huh!!!
2007-10-13 20:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rheanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should make your step father's girl friend to hate him . If it does not work you have to request your step father's girl friend to leave him . If that also doesn't work you should show some love to your father and after one month showing love to your step father nicely ask him to leave his girl friend. If this also doesn't work please send me some mails i will try to find another way . All the best don't worry . You can ask me anything i will always be your brother .
2007-10-13 20:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by ben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks seems a little soon for a new girlfriend after something like that
2007-10-13 20:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Boo! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
New girlfriend after 3 weeks? Wow that would make flames shoot from my butt I would be so mad. It would also make me take a closer look at my mothers death. Cause, assets, insurance, etc.
2007-10-13 20:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Justa Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. How lowly of him. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. If I were you I'd just have to say something to him. You need to tell him that it is obviously devastating to you and your girls. Out of respect for your mother he shouldn't be seeing anyone.
2007-10-13 20:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
three weeks , you nor your children have even had time for her passing to really hit you yet ! i think this was very inconsiderate of him and shows he had very little feelings for your mom to begin with , you werent wrong , just be there for your kids and let them remember their grandmother
2007-10-13 20:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by ur asking me lmao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋