We have seperated for about 2 months now. We have 2 kids together. I think it might be better if I wrote him a letter to let him know how I feel, or should I just tell him face to face? The only conversation that I can get out of him is about the kids.
2007-10-13 20:27:33 · 12 answers · asked by bambi10 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wooo. don't write the letter. Read the book, Love must be tough first before you talk to him again or write anything. He may have left for a lot of reasons I don't know. but if you have 2 kids you need to play this one out carefully. The book will explain what you need to do. You can get it at a christian book supply. I'm not a christian but it was good reading for me to get my wife back after she had an afair. the worst thing i could have done was write a letter telling her how I felt. She already knew that. If you don't want to read the book, then i can tell you some of the things I did that worked. First think to do is pack him a bag and tell him that as long as he is out of the house he is out of your life. Tell him you love him. and that all though you may have done some things wrong in his eyes that he as well has done things to hurt you and if leaveing is what he would rather do than get councilling and work out you marriage for the better, than you wish him luck. Than tell him you love him and you wish he would have chose to save his family. but you and your children will survive without him. hand him then note with his bags or if he is already out deliver it to him where he is staying and leave. Don't hang around to chat. Don't meet to talk and don't answer his calls. If you do wind up talking be nice but short. You need him to see what he is giving up. This may seem hard but you sound like you have already lost him. At this point you need to open his eyes without him feeling threatened, smothered or that you have no self respect.. Unfortunately it's kind of like dating all over again. You got to make him want to be with you.
2007-10-13 20:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mike C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Writing a letter to him is a great way to start a conversation; but, be mindful not to point fingers or place blame on either one of you. There is nothing wrong with having any type of feeling, they are not good or bad, it is how we react to the feeling that maybe good or bad.
In your letter ask some hard questions: Is our marriage worth saving? If the answer is "YES", then find some help in your community - church, counselor, etc. - or maybe it's time for a "rediscovery" of your marriage and try Retrouvaille ( www.retrouvaille.org ). This worked for my marriage! :)
2007-10-14 03:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better to talk to him face to face and tell him what's on your mind. Writing a letter to someone is tricky because you can't tell what kind of tone their using and it's hard to work off their reaction. Let him know what's on your mind and that you want your marriage back and if their's a way to fix it. Good luck!
2007-10-14 03:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by happy14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u write a letter and pour out all ur feelings. I'm not sure why u two seperated but talk bout it in the letter. If he wont talk then maybe the letter will open him up. good luck :)
2007-10-14 03:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tim some time something just wont be back to the same way they were analyze and think of the possibility that it really is over and learn to let go
2007-10-14 03:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by carinna h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey bambi! I agree with Mike C I think that you should find that book! I never caught the title but I think it was 'Love must be tough' and I think he also said you got to make him want you bad! or was it back? LOL either way read the book!
2007-10-14 14:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by in His image 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bambi write him a letter if you are better at that.. i can give more advice but we dont know why you two split up? that will help Bambi i know how you feel. you can email me if you want ill tell you what i think honestly!
2007-10-14 03:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray & meditate first. You might still be so emotional that instead of reviving your marriage, you'd be breaking it more than fast enough by your wrong choice of words. Have a heart to heart talk with him & be gentle. Have faith in God, Good luck !
2007-10-14 03:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by zynjen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter if he doesnt want to talk to you in person. or let it go for now and give it some time. how about marriage counseling.
2007-10-14 04:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes writing a letter is the best. Then you can say everything on your mind, with no interruptions. Then he can read it over and over if he wants.
2007-10-14 03:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋