My BF&I have been dating for about 4 months now, even though hes breaking the rules, his parents arent that strict as long as i attend church with him. But whenever we go out to the maovies, mall, even in a VONS i cant hold his hands or hug him in publlic [he'll literallly push me away]. This guy really has my heart and to not be able to show that to him and have to treat him as any other one of my guys friends breaks my hear. How am i supposed to hande this?
2007-10-13 20:15:40 · 2 answers · asked by Alyza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ive known my BF for about 4 years now, but we didnt start dating till about 4 months ago, even though hes breaking the rules, his parents arent that strict as long as i attend church with him. But whenever we go out to the maovies, mall, even in a VONS i cant hold his hands or hug him in publlic [he'll literallly push me away]. This guy really has my heart and to not be able to show that to him and have to treat him as any other one of my guys friends breaks my hear. How am i supposed to hande this?
2007-10-15 13:54:31 · update #1
Yay!, youre supposed to know that before you'd enter the relationship w/ him since you already knew him for 4 years already, religiously wise, RESPECT should be maintained, thats his upbringing, ACCEPTANCE is your next move.
They said if you cant beat them, join them.
If you do really love the person, you must accept everything about him, you must love him unconditionally. You may not be happy today but if you will learn to RESPECT AND ACCEPT it, at the end of the day, IM sure your happiness will be fulfilled.
You dont have to worry anymore. Hang on and be cool!
-woila-
2007-10-17 14:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax, and understand that really the communication makes it's bf&gf more then the pysical effection. Thats why this is a big deal in churhes, I'm not religious in any sences, but I understand how important it is for you guys to develop a relationship outside the physical contact. Also it helps you guys to strengthen the relationship based on the emotional, spirtual, and mental, and forgo's the easy part the physical. Anyone can make a strickly physical relationship work, making a relatinoship based on the other 3 isn't. So relax, and be glad that this guys got morals enough to one, go after you even know its not right, but two to make it work even thou it isn't by following the rules. He's trying to bring you in his life, all you have to do is sit tight and enjoy, time well give you the affection you so deserve, if your patient enough.
2007-10-15 10:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋