when i try 2 let my boyfriend no that im feeling insecure because of him acting sneaky, he gets angry and blows it all out of poportion resulting in yelling & screaming without being resolved, then acts like nothings wrong. then the nest day same thing over again...WHY?! i wont b able 2 move on till my feelings r addressed. Somebody please help!!!
2007-10-13 19:46:32 · 14 answers · asked by Melisa A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go ahead and move on he isn't that into you. If you are calling him sneaky there isn't enough proof in the world to make you secure. If he is worth trusting trust him if not dump him. If he doesn't care about your feeling you can't make him, just be happy you didn't marry him.
2007-10-13 19:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The irate behavior is something psychologists call evasion
he does it to evade you from what he is actually doing so you are more worried about why he is getting angry then what you are focused on.
NExt time he does that do not react.. sit calmly and look at him blankly and just say" You can stop getting irate to disuade me from the subject at hand. I will not be evaded. This is something that is hurting us and we need to talk about it so that we can overcome it positively without negative attitude about the situation. All I need is 15 min of your time to listen to me and then we can move on." This statment gives him security to calm down in
1. you wont tolerate the irate behavior and it is uneccesary
2. you give him a time period so it wont be long drawn out
3. you bring it to a positive note by letting him know that by geting it out of the way it will have a positive ending
These points make him feel secure and safe in a discussion.
Men are weird and it is like dealing with a child with a short attention span but this works
2007-10-13 19:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could have been trying to give you the brush off or he was just unable to talk to you. The cellphone was out of coverage (all countries aren't as progressive as the US) and it costs a lot of money to talk long distance (especially that long distance) on a regular phone. He probably couldn't afford it and his job is not a place to accept long distance personal calls unless there was some sort of emergency. You could have gotten him fired for that. I can't say you are at fault because I don't know the entire situation but think about what I said and determine for yourself whether you could have handled the situation differently or not.
2016-05-22 08:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey there all right find somone diffrent, u cant change a person. look at the way he treats others cuse this will be the way he treats u most of the time. how long have u been asking why? trust me i asked why for the better part of a year and nothing good ever came of it. but u could try talking to him about it more, or go to a consaler. if he realy loves u then he will try to be better and make it work, but if not MOVE ON. i know how it can be having to get rid of someone u care so much about, but in the end it will be better for u. do u belive in god? talk to him about it? he has ur best intrest in mind honey.
2007-10-13 20:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sami M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's tired of accusations that are baseless. Most guys don't like having confrontations and want things to be OK. That's probably why he is fine later. If he's a rat and did do something, better get outside proof before confronting him. Otherwise, get over being insecure or you will drive him away.
2007-10-13 19:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by commanderbuck383 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this guy is making u feel insecure (and thats the worst thing a guy can do) then kick him to the curb!
i know it may be hard to let go but just think how much easier itll be without the stress and to feel good about yourself for once!
Hey! maybe if when u break up with him and tell him why then maybe he will ask 4 your 4giveness and stop putting u down!
Good luck!
2007-10-13 19:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Swarley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just use birth control and do not marry him.
Lets face facts some facts. You are not going to change him and he is not going to change. What you see is what you get.
Good luck. Don't get pregnant.
2007-10-13 19:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it in a calm situation and make sure he knows that you are really concerned. Make sure he listens and answers if he doesn't you be the one to leave. Don't even take it from him.
2007-10-13 19:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity is your problem, not his. Is it easier for you to harden up or for the whole world to pu$$y foot around you?
2007-10-13 19:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Niki
2007-10-13 20:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋