His science teacher gave bad comments in his report saying that he is easily distracted and disrespectful etc...
She also send me a long email with how distractful he is in the class of 30 kids and she has no time to give him individual attention.She said she had to isolate his desk in the back of the class and in another occasion had to send him outside for the rest of the class!
He is very bright and willing to please, I dont like his teacher putting a label on him that may mark him as trouble maker and affect his school life.
This teacher also mentioned that "other teachers and the administration" had problems with him, (which is not true since I never heard anything about this and the report from other teachers was great.
I am having a meeting with her during parent teacher conference. I dont want to sound too protective and forgiving of my son, but I don't want her to label him either, any suggestions?
2007-10-13 18:56:50 · 15 answers · asked by The_last_Amazona 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
OK,he is in all advanced classes ( level 1),doing well in all. I know he can be a chatterbox if is not interested in the class and can be distracted too.
Is it possible for one teacher to form the wrong impression and act according to what she thinks and not what is right for the student? I also have a problem with him being marked as the troublemaker and being sent out of the class,something in my opinion more appropriate for a 6 year old!
How can I defend him without sound too protective and defensive? I am a parent who just wants what's best for my son, I never liked the parents who blame the teacher for everything but I think in this case I have to stand up for him. If it comes to worse there is another science class I can maybe switch him to but I don't want to send the message that when the going gets tough...
2007-10-13 19:31:40 · update #1
If I were you, I would express all these ideas to her. But at the same time, I would like to have more explanation from her comments about your son. For each of her comments, try to grasp what are the causes of the her complaints and seek to her if she has any suggestion to improvement.
2007-10-13 19:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by curiousity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally contact ALL of his teachers to get their feedback before aproching said teacher. That way you know how he acts and relates to the other teachers and athority figures. It sounds like it could just be a personally conflict in which case I would request a teacher change. It is too early in the school year for him to constantly be the target of negative attention. It can affect his whole year and out look on school.
I would also have a little heart to heart with him, ask for his honesty and hopefully he will tell you the ends and outs of the situations and occurances. Stress the importance of his hounesty as well as encourage him to focus and play by her rules until you can determine exactly how to deal with the whole situation. Make sure he knows that either way, if it is him causing the trouble or her, that no matter what you are behind him 100% and will help him make the changes to succeed.
He might be bored and need some extracurrictural activities to help calm his energies and focus his mind. I would at all cost avoid ADD or ADHD drugs, I work in pharmacy and it isn't the answer. All they are are different variations of speed. Meth. Don't do that to your child. Good luck and always remember to make sure he knows you believe in him.
2007-10-13 19:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me when I was 13. You seem very concerned that your son is going to be "labelled". I don't exactly know what that means; teachers are pretty open-minded about such reports.
You should listen with an open-mind. In one line, the teacher is sending his desk to the back of the room and out the door, yet you say he is willing to please. That DON'T sound like willing to please. You quote a report from the teacher and then proceed to refute it "because you never heard anything". Sometime you have to ask!!
Of course, it can be a personality clash; some kids just don't hit it off with a specific teacher. But remember, the teacher has to deal with him every day, and it may be difficult to switch teachers, even if that is the case.
2007-10-13 19:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to meet with his other teachers as well to see if this is a problem in the other classes, if the other teachers say no, he's a joy then see if he can switch to a different teacher or have a talk with him so he can get through this class (explain that sometimes personality conflicts happen and he needs to be respectful and just get through it).
If you are getting bad reports from the other teachers as well then they need to start telling you, some teachers are just there to get a paycheck and figure saying something will do no good so don't bother. They need to start emailing your or calling you when he misbehaves so you can take away privileges at home to try to rectify his behavior.
My nephew is quite precocious but a really bright kid too, his mom doesn't put up with any of his shenanigans at school and takes away privileges when he misbehaves.
2007-10-13 19:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Leizl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, a class of 30 kids? That is way too large of a class, your son is probably too smart for that class and is bored to death. Why not see if you can get him into an advanced school for bright kids? My nephew was doing the same thing and he was very unhappy. The idiot teachers were all worried about numbers and didnt care about the kids
Once he was moved to a better school, he completly changed, stopped having bad dreams, was much happier and all around was learning five times as much as he was. I bet it is just because he is very smart, and very bored.
I suggest that you try to move him to a school where the teachers are a better quality, class sizes are much smaller and they care about individual attention for the kids.
2007-10-13 19:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get him out of her class as soon as possible. Go to your gp and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist specializing in ADHD. He probably has a medical condition causing him not to be able to be still and concentrate. It is most important that he is in a class with a teacher who likes him, if not his self esteem is going to suffer and he may end up with severe behaviour problems and turning to something else!!!! Try and get him into some other activities that he can be successful at.
Good luck
2007-10-13 19:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by glenp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some very smart or bright kids ,get bored so they do constantly talk and distract the class out of boredom. He may need to be given harder things to learn to suit him. or the teacher has a personal problem with your son ,Talk to the head of the school .
2007-10-13 19:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't motivated or challenged enough in that class or it is just of no interest to him. Ask the teacher to challenge him more. Or maybe it is just the other students in the class; those he feels comfortable around or that he is trying to impress with humor.
About being labeled; its her class and he is disrupting it. Tell your kid to cut it out. His disruptions are interferring with other students learning.
2007-10-13 19:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by meters200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is just looking for some attention. maybe there is some girl in class he wants to impress. Check that out. He seems ok just dun be to harsh on his teacher either.
2007-10-13 19:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by kopioh2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe his teacher looks hot & as a teenager your son might have a fantasy about her
i think your son is completely fine
i used to have a crush on my bengali teacher. she also told my parents that i'm disattentive but look i got A's in my o level
2007-10-13 19:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋