Feminists: Do you think society should focus on female-against-male domestic violence?

Question

This may surprise feminists, but according to a recent survey, women were found to be more likely to commit nonreciprocal domestic violence against their partner, than men.

View the graph:
http://antimisandry.com//vbnews/photos/phprG6h6v.gif

Do feminists think we should continue to ignore domestic violence that women commit against men? We still live in a world where men who are abused by their girlfriends and wives are not taken seriously, and are ridiculed. Feminists often do not take male abuse victims seriously.

This is yet another double-standard against men, that feminists willingly ignore. Why?

Rio Madeira: Canada has murders?

Answer 1

first of all i am a woman but not a feminist. i believe all forms of abuse (ie child, spousal whether male or female, animal and elder abuse) need to have a focus on them to raise awareness and seek resolution.

let me say this, when my husband and i first started dating, i would get mad at him for something hurtful he might have said, and not knowing how to deal with the hurt feelings i would lash out physically, (maybe hit him in the arm or something or get an overwhelming urge to throw something at him). i didn't realize that type of reaction could have led me down a road of being abusive. i had an older brother and we fought like cats and dogs sometimes. throwing each other on the floor or up against a wall and hitting each other. it took me a little while to learn how to control my feelings of anger and pain and put those feelings into words. i am glad i recognized the problem before it became a real problem. mine wasn't a problem of needing to dominate or make myself feel bigger or stonger, it was a problem of knowing how to deal with emotional pain. anyway, that is just from a woman's perspective. no one should get abused, including men.

Answer 2

Society should focus on both female-against-male and male-against-female domestic violence equally. Domestic violence of any kind, whether committed by man or woman, should never be ignored.

The reason why more attention is given to male-against-female domestic violence is that men are generally stronger than women and thus likely to cause more serious injury. Men often have the physical strength to defend themselves whereas women are often not strong enough to defend themselves against men.

One thing I don't get is...why do men who claim to be abused (either verbally or physically) often stay in the relationship?

I think a lot of these guys who are in abusive relationships are wimps for staying. Then they often do not report it to the authorities. How do they expect society to do anything about it?

Here's a question for you: what would you do if a woman slaps you in the face? Would you reciprocate or simply take it?

Also, check this out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rON7EeT0Nxg

You get the idea of the kind of public service announcements there is about domestic violence.

Answer 3

No battery, no assault, should be ignored, regardless of the gender of the perpetrator. Yes, women are violent, in their own way, but with respect to all domestic violence, women sustain serious injuries a lot more than men. That's why the cops typically take the man away. And guys, if you think this is some kind of victory for the women that men are arrested more for dv, or that women have almost all the dv shelters and assistance, put yourself in their shoes -- an entire gender is generally bigger than they are and more likely to inflict serious injuries. (That's not to say women shouldn't be punished for their less physically damaging batteries.)

Answer 4

Society should focus on domestic violence as a whole and forget about who commits it more.

But just so you know, 52% of murdered women in Canada were killed by a lover; compare that to 8% of murdered men.

Answer 5

Domestic violence against men should not be ignored.

Baba Yaga, RoVale, and The Ms are right. Masculinists should stop whining to feminists and actually do something about it.

Answer 6

You as a masculinist should gather your troops and address the issue. Women and feminists did for their target group. Instead of constantly whining do something. You go on and on about the same subject and do not address it. Feminist are aware of domestic violence but they target females because that is the focus. Black groups target black issues, gays target gays and nobody else whines like you males do. Get a life.

Answer 7

Why don't some of you get together and fight for those changes instead of sitting back and complaining about them? Things got changed for women because there were those who were willing to stand up and fight for them. They could have sat back and complained but they didn't. Many of those women believed in their causes so much that they were willing to put up with the possible consequences of their activism such as public scorn, ridicule, and loss of careers and marriages. These are the women who are remembered today, not those who just put up with the abuse because they were afraid of what could happen to them if they spoke up.

Answer 8

Rio has a valid point.There is a reason men do not reciprocate. Women are terrible at committing violence; the raw murder statistics testify loudly to that.
I do not put much stock in self reports. They are a social science " tool. "

I looked at it, fool, and violence that is NOT RECIPROCATED is not reciprocated for a reason, moron below me.

Answer 9

I doubt the veracity of anything on that website, but this is an important issue nevertheless. I don't know that "society" should focus on it, but it should certainly be taken more seriously. Your statement that "feminists often do not take male abuse seriously" is not true. Domestic abuse is domestic abuse. Instead of waiting for US to do more, why don't masculists themselves speak up and begin a campaign to educate male victims that this is NOT shameful and they will be taken seriously?

DON'T ignore this, but don't hide behind our skirts either.

Answer 10

of course i think this should be focused on. violence within relationships is horrible. the problem is, and this goes for violence committed by both sexes, how do we fix it? aside from sweeping changes in the way people are socialized and the way they think, i have no idea what will change things.