i keep answering questins on this topic and nobody seems to agree on anything about premarital sex. i don't want any advice this is just a general question about what people think not what they should do because it is supposedly "right". Whatever your opinion is say why?
2007-10-13 17:03:59 · 23 answers · asked by Avangelis 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
me and my boyfriend met in the 7th grade and we have been dating for three years and five months.Now we are juniors in highschool .he was my friend before he was my boyfriend and i love him very much. i wouldn't consider it puppy love.
2007-10-13 17:25:12 · update #1
me and my boyfriend met in the 7th grade and we have been dating for three years and five months.Now we are juniors in highschool .he was my friend before he was my boyfriend and i love him very much. i wouldn't consider it puppy love.
2007-10-13 17:25:13 · update #2
my opinion is that i have nothing against it when the people involved are responsible and mature but opinons differ
2007-10-13 17:27:07 · update #3
i think that its ok. as long as the two people love eachother, use protection, and not be rediculously young.
2007-10-13 17:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by la_dmarma_lyd 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
same as after maritial sex
Sex is sex... making out is making out.
And making love includes everythign form snuggles and holding each other to hand, blow, lick, finger, breat and fluffy ahandcuffs and video camera activities.
Affection is a good thing...
You just need to do it safely and get clued up.
The most common ways people get pregnant is thinking the guy can pull out and not knowing about precume
ie willies are leaking millions of sperm cells all the time they are hard not just when the guy comes so if you get this in the girl, on the girl, on fingers and transfer or say putting the condom on the wrong way then flipping it over not painted with precum.
that will get you pregnant.
there is no safe time of the month.
Sperm can get thgouh panties... just not ten layers of clothes. panties are thin.
Fingers is a common way say getting sperm on fingers removing condom.
Or sperm spashed near the vagina swimming accross the wet patch or getting wiped accorss or out of butt and dribbling down and back in.
etc.
so best on the patch, nuva ring, inmplants, injection 9pills are too easy to mess up) and leanring all the drugs that can stop it working AND using condoms
AND haveing morning after pills at home just in case
There are many living together happy couples some with kids who have been far more stable, happy, loving and long term then many married coupels often divorcing, fighting over the kids and money.
Also there are different stages of ses ie 14-16 is usually discovering kissing and boob feeling but that and hanging with friendsa and making out near friends.
Uni parties, spin the bottle, making out in cars... you dont get married coupes doing all these things.
Enjoy life and all it has to offer just do it safely.
And also many never get to meet a soul mate or no good at holding down realtioships , or travelling all the time or may not meet anyone till age 50...
what about all them are they supposed to be miserable like some staring kid in the snow freezing and looking in at everyone else enjoying a christmas party?
2007-10-13 22:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is a bad idea, because of the risks you are taking. What if your protection fails, and you get pregnant? You may think you know the person, but what happens if they aren't who you thought, and leave you if you are pregnant? Then you are unmarried and pregnant, which can't be fun. And what if that person has and STD and didn't tell you? You can get it too then. Only have sex if you are of an appropriate age, in a very serious relationship, and are prepared to deal with anything that happens.
2007-10-13 17:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's a will there's a way. It's going to happen one way or another. I personally think it's your choice. The morals and values you grew up with aren't always passed along to your kids, parents are getting younger and younger these days. It's sad to see a girl so young pregnant, but I believe you reap what you sow. I'm not married, and I have a 3 month old daughter, the daddy is still in the picture. He wants to get married I'm the one that's holding back. My parents have been together for 32 years and they aren't married either.
2007-10-13 17:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Emma's Mommy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is a personal decision. I wish I would have waited a little longer to have sex. I was 15 when I lost it and now I'm 20 and been with 8 guys. I have slowed down a lot these past four years though. Now there is only one man in my life and I am going to be with him till the end. Wish I would have waited on him. He is 23 and I'm only his 2nd. Kinda makes me feel bad.
2007-10-13 17:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea amongst teens, who generally do not know what they wont and will end up breaking up in a month or so anyway. I don't have a problem with it between two consenting adults...I think waiting until marriage is the right thing to do...but realistically most Adults (or anybody >_> ) will not wait that long.
2007-10-13 17:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looking back I wish I would have waited. I expected so much after I had given it up. And, vice versa. It seems like the stakes changed and it was hard to even it out.
Plus, I would like to forget my past. Not that I was a slut. Just didn't know when to let go of a dud - because he was my first. I really got drug through the mud. And, made a lot of stupid choices.
2007-10-13 17:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have pre martial sex all the time...
I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have only recently decided to get married. He however is the only person I have ever been with sexually. It doesn't really worry me what people think.
However, I know certain people, who sleep around a bit. I think that is unhealthy. They never know what they will be exposed to.
Love makes it right, not puppy-love, but the love that last forever
2007-10-13 17:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
well I was a christian and still am. Im married to the only person I had sex with. We have been together since we were 13 and had sex 2 years later when we were 15. I knew I loved him and I absolutley knew I was going to marry him. However, I wish that I waited, even though I knew he was the right one. I knew it was wrong then but I found my self in deep temptation.
I think the best gift you could give the person you love is your virginity on your wedding night. its the biggest and kindest sacrafice of love.
I knew I loved him and to me, waiting until marriage is putting your money where your mouth is. If you love that person, than show it. Wait until marriage. thats the true way to show you love them
2007-10-13 17:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Raven D 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I waited until we got married. It was so worth it. It gives you a chance to get to know each other without those pressures and expectations. Also, you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy. It is wonderful when two people truly love each other. If you can, wait.
2007-10-13 17:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am for waiting i wish i had waited until marriage. sex before marriage puts too much unwanted to needed stress on the relationship. keep sex out of a dating relationship focus on getting to know the person before jumping in the bed.
2007-10-13 17:07:54 · answer #11 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋